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i need some advice: my bf has a friend that has lied about me to my bf, said hurtful things, and tried to villainize me. he even said i was overstaying my welcome when i visited. he makes me uncomfortable but they’re close. i don’t know what to do
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Anonymous 2d

they’ve been friends since high school (friend being a sr and my bf a jr) and we met in college sophomore year. i know they’ve been friends longer than we’ve been together but we love each other a lot. his friend tries to manipulate him when they’re on the game and just is on him more than anyone else in their circle. their friendship makes me uncomfortable because of what he has said about me. i can tell he’s jealous and it makes me feel icky

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Anonymous 2d

you need to tell your bf about it, if your boyfriend dismisses your feelings - do you want to be stuck around the friend forever?

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Anonymous 2d

hes in love w ur bf i hatw to break it to you

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

it’s pretty gross ur bf isnt defending u more too

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

no, i pretty much came to that conclusion also. it doesn’t help that he is a gay man that has admitted to having attraction to others in their friend group (according to my boyfriend) so it really feels that way

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

the reason i know is i read the text between them. i’m open with him on how i feel about his friend (and that i kinda hate him) and he told me what happened and that he was talking about me. i read the text exchange and he really didn’t defend me that much until i yelled at him about it and they had a talk. he said he was really stern about it and said “don’t talk about my fkin gf” but it still makes me feel icky due to many things

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Anonymous replying to -> witchy_salem 2d

he’s receptive of how i feel, but i feel as if he doesn’t do enough sometimes to defend my honor if that makes sense. when we got together my friends weren’t as happy but i made sure to keep them in line but he doesn’t have the same energy. he’s very non confrontational but it’s like, at a certain point you have to stand up for something, especially me.

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