Anonymous #1 1w

Kinda yeah, and I feel like dating someone your friend was fwbs is weird and not very friend like ig

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Anonymous OP 1w

What wasn’t meant for you might be good for her and vice versa. Idk, I’ve never really believed in that whole “don’t date someone your friend has dated/slept with.” We’re all people at the end of the day and while you have your feelings, people shouldn’t have to quit on their own romantic feelings towards a person due to feeling like they might have to pick between potential partners and friendships. Did you ever express you liked him to him or her? That would be a little different then

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Anonymous #1 1w

I did and I told her I think it’s weird she is dating him now especially cause even before they got together and I was hooking up with him I was talking about how I like him and how I’m attracted to him and how he treats me

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Anonymous OP 1w

I would just be up front with her tbh

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Anonymous #1 1w

Let me clarify cause I did not do it very well the first time now that I thought about it. “Instead of just canceling, be like “I’m sorry but no. You know how I feel about this situation and it’s a little difficult for me to listen to you talk about you and him.”

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Anonymous #1 1w

She ended up canceling on me instead to hang out with

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah see now my opinion has changed. Screw her

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Anonymous #1 1w

She did the same thing yesterday too 😕, and I don’t want to make her chose or tell her who she can or can’t go out with, I told her that too, I just don’t want to hear about it and I don’t want it to get between us cause I am happy she’s in her first relationship and happy, she even said that it wouldn’t get in the way of us hanging out and it already has been and she’s already crossed the boundary we set about not talking about them but she was upset and I want to be a good friend

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Anonymous OP 1w

Ah, see that changes things MORE. Wtf. I sincerely hope this is just the puppy love stage and she doesn’t continuously cancel on you more. I had a friend who did that plenty. Personally, I would reiterate you do not want to hear about it and if she attempts to talk about it again, I’d shut her down quickly

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Anonymous #1 1w

The only reason I didn’t is cause when she said she was holding back tears all morning and I knew she was at his place all night so I knew it had to do something with her losing her virginity and I didn’t want to that friend who isn’t there for stuff like that since that’s a big complicated feeling of emotions after, but I’m definitely gonna make that boundary more clear, and I hope it’s just puppy love too cause sometimes I just need my friend when I’m having a bad day

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