Anonymous #1 5w

Nevermind the fact that oftentimes they justify it by claiming porn isn't real life which speaks to how much they dehumanize the women they watch. Who's to say they don't see you that way either?

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’ve always understood “it’s not real life” as “there’s no actual interaction happening here” tbh. Which is also p much what I think about the acting on lust thing. I think it’s normal to find other people attractive in a relationship.

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Anonymous OP 5w

It is normal, but would you be cool with knowing your partner was masturbating to women he knows irl? Just because they're pornstars doesn't make a difference. Then again everyone has different standards for a relationship and if interaction is what you define as being the problem then i can see why you take no issue with it

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Anonymous #1 5w

Me personally i don't mind my partners finding other people attractive, everyone does, but fantasizing and masturbating to them is another issue entirely

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Anonymous #1 5w

I’d definitely think it’s weird if it was someone they knew cause there’s proximity there. I think also bc when I’ve watched porn I’m not fantasizing about the people, more about doing what they’re doing w my person of choice. I didn’t realize people actually fantasize about the actress ngl

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Anonymous OP 5w

I work around alot of men and can say with confidence that if he watches alot of porn, he has favorite actresses. They talk about it amongst each other all the time. I think thats what set my opinion on porn in relationships 😭 then again im in a blue collar setting and those types of men tend to be more misogynistic in general

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Anonymous #2 5w

Ethicality is a good point but I don’t think it’s scientifically accurate or responsible to frame watching porn as drug addiction

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Anonymous OP 5w

There are plenty of science journals you can read about how porn effects brain function and behavior it is indeed comparable to how drug addiction functions and lights up the brain. But honestly we need women like you to take men like that off the market for the rest of us I’m not complaining or trying to convince you 🙂

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Anonymous #1 5w

That makes sense. The men I’ve dated have only really had casual engagement with porn and weren’t like fans of any actresses.

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Anonymous #2 5w

There’s also experts that disagree w the framing of porn as an addiction and sorry to disappoint but I’m currently dating another woman so 🤷‍♀️ can’t help you there

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Anonymous OP 5w

when you have people that physically cannot stop viewing it and quite literally have to seek therapy and support groups to break away from it there’s no doubt it’s an addiction for some. anything that floods the brain with dopamine can be an addiction. 1+1=2. You asked why and got a response.

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Anonymous #2 5w

I mean I guess. I have opinions about how addictions are classified that aren’t really relevant to this, my opposition to your framing is more about that I think porn isn’t inherently addictive in the same way drugs are.

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Anonymous OP 5w

it’s not a frame it’s common sense and reality😂 there are organizations getting rich as we speak getting paid to help people with porn addiction. there are a lot of things that aren’t inherently addictive that turn into addictions doesn’t make it any less of an addiction again 1+1=2

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Anonymous #2 5w

Honestly I think a lot of those organizations are grifters and porn addiction is a lot of the time a problem of personal guilt rather than actual material effect on people’s lives.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Like my problem with what you said isn’t that I don’t think people can develop unhealthy relationships to porn. Too much of anything is bad. But I think acting like porn is uniquely insidious in how it lights up reward pathways contributes to unhealthy relationships with sexuality.

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Anonymous OP 5w

well that’s simply not the case especially when it comes to men. all you have to do is take a brief dive in divorce forums and listen to thousands of women talk about how porn addiction ruined their marriage. they become so consumed in it they can’t even care for or be attracted to their wives anymore. maybe since you’re a lesbian you don’t get the scope but the same species that rape children and animals are definitely subject to letting lust get out of hand in a way that goes beyond guilt

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Anonymous #2 5w

I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, also I’m bisexual I’ve dated men before, I’m saying that porn doesn’t form a chemical reliance the same way that drugs do and it’s possible for people to have an interest in porn that doesn’t consume their lives. I also think the way men treat women has little to do with lust and lots to do with misogyny and power.

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Anonymous OP 5w

porn contributes to misogynistic worldviews and is inherently anti feminist so

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Anonymous #2 5w

There are decades of debate about whether or not porn can exist ethically that I’m not going to get into over yy cause I already agreed with you that it’s dubious but there are plenty of feminists that also have nuanced opinions on this so this isn’t some sort of gotcha 🫩

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Anonymous OP 5w

not any worth a damn

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Anonymous #2 5w

like I said you asked why and you got an answer. quite simple

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Anonymous #2 5w

Then we’re just gonna have to agree to disagree

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Anonymous OP 5w

love that. we need more women like you tbh clean the streets up

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Anonymous #2 5w

Ur rude

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Anonymous #3 5w

everybody has their own opinion irdgaf. you can be bottom feeder #2

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Anonymous #2 5w

Pookie ur #2

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Anonymous #3 5w

no hoe you took that position about 2 minutes ago

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Anonymous #2 5w

😭ur calling ppl hoes now crazy work

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Anonymous #3 5w

That’s what me and my gf are doing while we’re away from each other for winter break lmao

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Anonymous #3 5w

because I’m rude right😌 #embracing

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Anonymous #2 5w

💅oki queen accept ur identity

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Anonymous #3 5w

bitch go find something to do

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Anonymous #2 5w

I should be telling u that pooks

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Anonymous OP 5w

Same boat 🛶

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Anonymous #3 5w

inserted yourself to say a whole lot of nothing. useless

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Anonymous #2 5w

I said ur rude and take what u will from that lol. I just thought u should know that.

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Anonymous #2 5w

What do you mean by “clean the streets up”

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Anonymous #3 5w

okay cool nexttt

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Anonymous #2 5w

ur so pressed about what?

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Anonymous #3 5w

next

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