Anonymous OP 4w

without even telling me either and its just like i feel like thats basic manners bc if i had called you just for me to talk to someone else that’d be rude no?

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Anonymous OP 4w

and this is just one example it feels like whenever he does something that i dont feel comfortable with, he never considers how like he would feel if i did it to him until i mention that. and me personally if im with someone i consider your emotions with my actions 24/7

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Anonymous #1 4w

i don’t think it’s doomed at all, plenty of ppl go through adjustment periods of just trying to figure out how to navigate a relationship and it can take some time to change, adjust, and find compromise that works for both parties. but if ur feeling like it’s not worth it, do listen to ur instincts. sometimes it rly is just not worth it to keep trying especially if it’s taking a toll on u that outweighs the good.

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Anonymous #1 4w

i just feel like we have great moments like a ton and we never argue in person, its only through text and i communicate my feelings but he always takes it as “IM NOT GONNA BE PERFECT” type of thing like nobody is telling you to be perfect

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Anonymous OP 4w

and a lot of these arguments always come down to consideration

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Anonymous OP 4w

it could be that through the phone things just aren’t connecting. it can be hard to have serious conversations or even just light ones over the phone and thru text bc ur missing essential parts of communication like tone of voice, facial expressions, physical touch, and body language. it could be worth it to bring up in person and see if ur words land better with him and to see if his words land better with u.

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Anonymous OP 4w

it sounds like he’s feeling defensive, which definitely would cause him to not rly hear u and therefore not change even if he intends to do better for u. maybe try to find a way to attack the problem without making him feel attacked? at the end of the day though there is only so much u can do sometimes. an ex of mine was similar with this and it nvr rly changed. not saying ppl can’t change, but sometimes like i said, it’s not worth it if it starts to take a toll on u.

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Anonymous #1 4w

tysm i appreciate it, im gonna try to talk with him in person because i just thought like it would be normal to yk have manners for ur partner

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Anonymous OP 4w

yes clearly set ur expectations and be open to hearing why he might not have seen why it’s so important to u. wishing the best for u!

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Anonymous OP 4w

i’m so sorry girl. it’s not worth your mental health if he’s making you feel this way. i’m proud of you for trying to speak up and set boundaries and it’s okay to let go if it’s hurting you.

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