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i’ve been seeing this guy for about a month (8-ish dates tho) and i can tell that the “what are we” convo is coming soon 🤭 but i’m torn — should i initiate the make-it-official talk myself, or should i wait for him to ask me to be his gf ?
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take initiative myself‼️
let him ask me😇
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Anonymous 1w

I think what you should do is go into it with “ok if he doesn’t ask me by February 1st then I’m gonna ask him”

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Anonymous 1w

also context: i want to have it locked down by valentine’s day bc LITERALLY WHY NOT i think it would be so fun and i love vday 💗

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Anonymous 1w

I would never ask for advice in this group literally why would you take initiative that’s the man if he wants to make the formality he will. Asking “what are we” is crazy if he doesn’t have his own desire to make it official why would you even want to nudge him about it. but it’s also not surprising I can tell by the posts the girls in this group go for anything

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

girl it’s the 3rd😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yes but it’s an example bc idk how long you want to wait my initial example was February 31st

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I’m with #1. If you wanna try making it official by Valentine’s then give him a time limit to initiate it, and if he doesn’t do it by then you go ahead and ask

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

i respect a difference in perspective, but the weird value judgement you’re making about people who don’t follow strict gender norms in dating is very much not welcome here !

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

you quite literally said you’re debating on whether to let him ask you so that clearly and obviously communicates you abide by the dynamic. if you didn’t you wouldn’t be asking the question in the first place so please get some kind of grip. y’all are laughable I swear

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

holy fucking shit you sound bitter 😭 and so wrong — i don’t follow strict gender norms about dating at all. you’re acting like you know me for what ? i’m a total stranger online expressing excitement about a developing relationship. i’m having a hard time understanding what about my post triggered this reaction from you.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

And I’m saying you pulling that out your ass like you didn’t just say you wanted him to ask you and I’m just pushing gender norms is insane you’re boring me bitch.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

OP ignore them, they’re a rage baiter who has too much time on their hands and not enough ability to be helpful

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