Girl Talk on Sidechat | not a normal post, but if anyone has any advice on how to cope with being sexually assaulted, please tell. i’m safe, but it happened so recently - last night - from someone i trusted and i don’t know how to feel or what to do to get over it.

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not a normal post, but if anyone has any advice on how to cope with being sexually assaulted, please tell. i’m safe, but it happened so recently - last night - from someone i trusted and i don’t know how to feel or what to do to get over it.

Anonymous 4w

Maybe very unconventional advice, it’s ok to mentally check out. Do it. Disassociate. Distract yourself any way you can. Sleep is good too. Just make sure friends and family check in on you. Even weirder advice, after a few weeks, go to places you’ve been with your rapist and create positive memories whether that’s by yourself or with someone else. Just font wait too long You’re going to have flashbacks not of what happened but anywhere you have a strong memory with them.

Anonymous 4w

also info for anyone new who sees the post: i wasn’t raped, just assaulted - my upper body, face, and neck were kissed/touched. the person is a friend of a friend, but we go to different colleges (thank god), so i probably (hopefully) won’t ever have to see them again.

Anonymous 4w

Er, rape kit. Now. You can collect the evidence now and decide much later if you want to press charges. But the longer you wait, evidence wastes. If it wasn't rape/no bodily fluids or you have no bodily evidence, you can still report it. Also find a therapist.

Anonymous 4w

If you’re university has therapist, I highly recommend it! I agree with the other comment about making positive memories wherever you were with them. So sorry that happened to you!! And I wish you the best 🥹🥹

Anonymous 4w

genuinely exhausted but can’t sleep

Anonymous

OP 4w

will reply to comments later when more awake 🩵

Anonymous

OP 4w

One more thing, they say 72 hours and all evidence is erased. I'm not trying to do anything but inform you. What you decide to do from here is only up to you, and no one else. I'm sorry you've joined the mass of us this has happened to. You're not alone by any means.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I just want you to have options, even if you're not in the headspace right now to do anything about it

Anonymous

#1 4w

it wasn’t rape, no - just forced kissing/touching/etc. i’ll look for a therapist and see if i can get one. thank you for the replies 🩵

Anonymous

#2 4w

thank you for the reply, i will. it wasn’t rape, but forced kissing/touching. i was considering transferring to the college the person went to (just was a coincidence, i wasn’t interested in the college specifically because of them or anything), but now i’m not. i’ve been awake since 4am and am currently in the gym, then i’ll be getting myself my favorite protein bars + chocolate. it’s just a struggle to act normal around my family, since they don’t know.

Anonymous

OP 4w

in accordance with your advice, sometime in the next week, i’ll visit the park/bakery i went to after leaving their dorm. 🩵

Anonymous

OP 4w

also can’t edit comments but obvi the kissing/etc was not consensual and somewhat violent (they grabbed my throat, etc). no bruises or marks came of it. i’m not reporting it because it would be too much work and they scare me. my goal = just to adjust/move on as best i can and heal.

Anonymous

OP 4w

I will say transferring would be the best option if you’re far away from your support system or there are too many places you can get retriggered. But the other thing, sleep is the most crucial. I didn’t emphasize it before but it really is that essential. Take melatonin or something but do not put it off because trauma can and will very easily induce psychosis if you do not get enough sleep. Speaking from experience there.

Anonymous

#3 4w

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