Anonymous #2 22w

No, it wouldn’t matter. The only that matters about someone’s sexual history is their testing. Transparency is key.

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Anonymous #3 22w

Yes but that's what sex means to *you.* Other people have attached different meanings on what sex means for them and are fine with engaging in it more casually. I can kind of get it with wanting your partner to value sex in the same way that you do if you want to be with them long-term, but it baffles me seeing how hostile some people will get over someone else's body count when it genuinely doesn't matter and doesn't affect them at all

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Anonymous #4 22w

I’m not saying that someone can’t have sex casually but I’m saying body count is a concept that is important to a lot of people

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Anonymous #3 22w

Even if someone has had multiple partners, that doesn’t mean sex can’t still be special to them.

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Anonymous OP 22w

What if someone said they were like 21 years old and had 21 bodies?

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Anonymous #3 22w

That doesn’t mean anything.

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Anonymous OP 22w

That is your opinion, and mine is mine. To me I think having sec is less special when you normalize it.

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Anonymous #3 22w

Cool, that’s one person’s perspective and you’re welcome to have and operate with that. Shaming others and trying to enforce some arbitrary nonsense isn’t cool. Sex is no less special to me with a partner even if I’ve been with others. That’s not reflective of who I am or how good and close of a partner I can be, and the same applies to others.

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Anonymous OP 22w

I’m not shaming, I personally just disagree. We can have different views and that doesn’t mean I’m gonna shame someone for having a higher body count. https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-road-to-infidelity-passes-through-multiple-sexual-partners

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Anonymous #3 22w

Or you could just not worry about something as frivolous and toxic as “body count”.

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Anonymous #3 22w

A body count tells you nothing about someone’s current views on sex and sexuality. Also 21 by 21 doesn’t say much either, that could’ve been all in one day, one year, a lot at the beginning and little to none now, the opposite, etc I don’t understand why people judge so harshly based on one singular number

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Anonymous OP 22w

I wouldn’t say the concept of body count is toxic but being honest about it is, if you have a higher one you shouldn’t lie about it. It can show you about your partner's current maturity, emotional availability and also the respect you have for yourself.

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Anonymous #1 22w

Like someone could’ve had an orgy or something once and then discovered it’s not their thing. And some people include times they’ve been sexually assaulted in their body count too

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Anonymous #3 22w

Not being honest*

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Anonymous #3 22w

I wouldn’t count an sa as a body count I mean who would? That’s so sad to say that someone could have one body count and it’s was forcefully done.

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Anonymous #3 22w

How exactly does a body count reflect someone’s current maturity and emotional availability? Other than whatever assumptions you make up about someone based on one number?

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Anonymous #1 22w

It doesn’t. It’s entirely so others can make assumptions and look down on them.

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Anonymous #3 22w

how are you assuming that someone lacks respect for themselves based on how many people they've slept with but not looking down on them based on how many

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Anonymous #4 22w

I’m not saying that someone is a bad person for having a higher body count but sharing a high body count is lowering your value as a human and it’s unfortunate. sex is an intimate act that you share with your partner. I will never understand hookup culture and that’s my opinion. These are my views.

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Anonymous #3 22w

Ah, there it is. There’s the “holier than thou” nonsense.

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Anonymous #3 22w

It’s not something that matters.

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Anonymous OP 22w

Nope not holier, I’m a woman with two bodies nd that’s the truth, and I’m not religious in any sort

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Anonymous OP 22w

Thank you for your opinion

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Anonymous #3 22w

And yet you still think you’re better or that you’re “more valuable” over something that doesn’t ultimately matter. Let me guess, you’re quick to jump in say someone has been “ran through”, too?

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Anonymous OP 22w

Nope 🙂‍↔️, I believe in self worth and it’s honestly sad to see people just going and sleeping around for fun

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Anonymous #3 22w

Nope, you think people hold less value. You said it yourself.

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Anonymous #3 22w

Well according to your logic your body has been tainted and you’re no longer pure. What a sad, sad way of viewing human connection

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Anonymous #1 22w

I’m not talking about purity? Who gives a shit about that. I’m saying when your number gets high and you’re looking back don’t you have regrets. I regret one of my bodies and wish I could go back.

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Anonymous #3 22w

You do. You’ve expressed that yourself. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but that doesn’t make you or anyone else “less valuable”.

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Anonymous #3 22w

Then you're just projecting dude 😭 Fuck if I know?? Why are you so concerned with what other people are doing anyways

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Anonymous #4 22w

Right!? It’s weird.

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Anonymous #4 22w

Listen I’m not the one who posted the thread

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Anonymous #3 22w

Well you can’t go back, you lacked enough self respect to go for something regretful and you can’t erase that. Does regret suddenly save you from being judged for your body count? Do you only apply that logic to yourself and not the others with higher numbers who regret their past? You’re one of them

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Anonymous OP 22w

Say a girl isn’t transparent about her current health status, is her number a problem then?

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Anonymous #2 22w

its not about her number, if she's knowingly withholding the information that she has an std before she sleeps with someone then yeah that's a fucking problem obviously 💀 but the issue would lie in the fact that she's purposefully putting someone else at risk not with the amount of people she's slept with

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Anonymous #2 22w

No, it’s not. Only the testing and transparency matters. Quit focusing on some made up, bullshit number counter you use to try and look down on others.

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Anonymous OP 21w

Just testing your logic friend, we agree on everything.

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