there's no way all kids can be shown equal attention when you hit those #s. it's always gonna end up with the older kids taking care of the younger ones, which is unfair as hell

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Legit more than 3 for me… middle child syndrome is alr pushing it for me, 2 worked well for me and my sis… but 5?!?! Are u kidding me?!

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i think i’ve heard there are certain numbers of children better than others bc there’s a sweet spot where they don’t feel lonely and feel supported by each other

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If you’re gonna have kids you need to be financially stable and prepared to treat all of them equally. You shouldn’t have more than 5 or 6 personally. My grandma was one of five sisters, and would often tell me stories of how 2/3 girls had to share rooms with 2 girls in each bed (they enjoyed sharing them). The girls rarely ever fought. They were financially stable, the yard was big and the house was small. Despite never getting a son their father still loved them all unconditionally

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It's always Christian Conservative families that don't believe in or care about the environment that have 11+ kids...and if they have that many then there is most likely neglect or something sort abuse(from what I've seen it's more cult like indoctrination bc they believe they must produce)

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I think it’s only ok if there’s a proper community to support them and give them attention and guidance

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i am 1 of 8 and honestly i think it depends on the parents. I know people who have just as many siblings as i do and they a feel so loved but I had a different experience than that. I also lowkey think it also depends on if your family has money which i know is an odd thing to say but

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I’m the youngest of 8. I either got completely ignored or I was the only kid focused on.

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Personally I think it’s unethical to bring any kids into this world🤷‍♀️

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it depends on the parents and community and it depends on how financially stable people are. plain and simple 🤷‍♀️, im the oldest of 3 and i still became an older parent to my siblings thats just how it usually goes but its how grew closer to each other and avoided any competition between ourselves

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They’re are 5 of us kids I’m the 2nd oldest and only daughter. Me and my siblings all had our moments with our parents the arguments and disagreements but none of us never felt unloved or like we aren’t part of the family. 3 out of us 5 are considered the older children because of ages gaps with the 2 youngest. But even with age gaps my parents would take us older kids out for days without the youngest being there. My parents did everything in their power to make sure we all knew we are loved.

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My mom should have stopped at 1 (me) because the second she had another it immediately became a competition bc she cannot have a healthy relationship w her kids simply bc she has more than one

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even hotter take: i am convinced that people are addicted to pregnancy and love it so much to the point where they end up having way too many children. you do not need 10+ kids. matter of fact you don’t even need more than 5-6. it really gets to a point where it’s like how can you possibly enjoy being pregnant for that much of your life. i will never understand it.

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I'm 1 of 10 kids and I love it and have a great relationship with both of my parents!

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Youngest of 7 here. My dad was a therapist and my mom had office jobs throughout my childhood, and their dual income was not sustainable for the 9 of us. I felt like my medical needs were a burden. My dad was always tired after work so he didn’t even want to spend time with his kids when he was home

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In my opinion it’s unethical to have a big carbon footprint but that can happen whether or not you have a lot of kids.

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My mom had 6 kids total, 4 of us survived and I was the eldest daughter, I think people should stop at 3. I don’t think it’s realistic to have more than that while still making sure they’re having all of their emotional and mental needs met on top of their physical needs

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like 6 is definitely pushing it. make the man get a damn vasectomy for goodness sake or use protection

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who cares, these kids still turn out fairly normal, people feel this way as only child’s, a few siblings, or alot it doesn’t just happen to large families

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