
one of the things that helped me was having a friend who never said anything bad abt my partner directly but would tell me how “others” were being treated and how she felt so bad for them. anyone who say anything directly about my partner was cut off by me bc he would go through my phone and become enraged so to avoid it i would drop them. that friend would also always try to make plans that he could always come too and bc of that he was okay with letting me go. on the outside she basically