
i’ve been in the queer community a long time. my take is labels are just words. your internal experience of attraction and gender and desire are likely not going to fit cleanly into an easily distinguished category that can be completely summed up in a word. It’s good to reflect on what you want and who you think you are but at the end of the day when it comes to calling yourself something it’s about communicating to other people.
so you might use a label or a word to describe yourself like lesbian or bisexual or sapphic because it conveys what you’re looking for in a sexual or romantic partner and a snippet of hoe you view yourself but I wouldn’t get too caught up in trying to perfectly encapsulate everything you experience/have experienced in a word because life rarely makes it that easy