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i could never handle raising a kid with intellectual disabilities and/or neurodevelopmental disorders which is exactly why i’m not having kids and the chances of me passing them down are 50/50.

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Anonymous 17w

im the same way!! like ik i couldn't handle that so im not having any

Anonymous 17w

this literally scares me so much as someone who probably wants kids one day. what if they come out like very disabled and need 24/7 care but I don’t want to/couldnt do that… but if you give that baby away you’re now considered a horrible person and the guilt would be insane.

Anonymous 17w

1000% agree but it makes me a bit sad because i’d love to be a mom but i know i couldnt handle it and it wouldn’t be fair to the child to pass on so many health issues

Anonymous 17w

I wouldn’t be able to handle 9+ months of my body changing and the pain that comes w it. No thank you. My 2 sisters and I alr made up our minds. Plus, we have a brother so we don’t need to give birth

Anonymous 17w

No fr I’m FUCKED in the head I would hate to bring a kid into this world knowing it’s gonna struggle just like I have

Anonymous

#3 17w

i think i would give my kid up if they had disabilities which is why i’m not having them. i cannot handle a ND child as someone who is ND myself and i will say it with my chest.

Anonymous

#3 17w

it’s the hard acceptance of being a parent. literally anything can happen but you have to be willing to take it before you go in. if not, then maybe kids isn’t right for you

Anonymous

#5 17w

i can see where she’s coming from. there are parents out there that regret having kids due to unexpected disabilities bc they can’t mentally or emotionally handle it… then you’re also hated on for putting them in a care home while trying to protect your mental sanity and health.

Anonymous 17w

i understand that. i can see both sides. some parents think they can handle things and they are sure they can, but sometimes that feeling can change if they are already here and that’s okay too. obviously they should treat their children with love and respect regardless of outcome.

Anonymous 17w

that but i also feel like not being able to mentally handle raising a child as such is also valid. we have to consider the wellbeing of the parent and the child which is why i can understand why some parents give up their kids to care homes while still being able to visit and see them. maybe i’m too empathetic but the feelings of parents shouldn’t be neglected either.

Anonymous

#8 17w

i have no desire to be a mom but even if i wanted to be one i have too many genetic issues

Anonymous

OP 17w

understandable, i applaud when people recognize its better not to pass down genes that diminish quality of life. I don’t want to put my child through what I go through everyday and I wish that’s how others saw it too

Anonymous

#9 17w

i made up my mind at 11-12 years old and i’m 23 now. i’m getting a genetic test for a cancer gene next year, and if i have it i’m getting a hysterectomy asap. (the gene increases my risk of uterine, ovarian, and cervical cancer by 70%).

Anonymous

OP 17w

I also have celiac disease and I gotta live with this for the rest of my life. Not smth I’d want to pass down to my child. I don’t wanna see them struggling w it