why is sex the end goal of being around me? why must sex be the "reward" for you spending quality time with me

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ladies!! just to clarify i was talking about being IN A RELATIONSHIP. i was just trying to share that i was hurt that my previous boyfriends didnt seem to be able to spend time with me or bond unless it led to sex : ( i hope that makes sense!

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There are, they’re just rare so I’m not dating men until I come across one

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i feel you :// i had the same experiences with my exes. for a while, i never thought much about it until i did & realized that almost any time we hung out, it ended up with us having sex. like?? we can’t just watch tv? we can’t hangout and talk? we can’t just cuddle? we can’t do anything without this becoming something sexual??

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yeah when i tried to make the just friends thing work. twice he tried tickling me just to get on top of me 😟 it did not work out and i’m happily single 🥰

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I just got a declaration of romantic, “I want to woo you” love over text from a classmate who KNOWS that I’m ACE/ARO and that I only have room in my heart for fraternal and platonic love, and that I see him as an annoying cousin

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…respectfully that is your ex. Also a man. You already have history genuinely what did you expect

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