Anonymous #1 9w

Bars

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I get that but she isnt the same way with him he has trust issues and its not fair for her😔

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She really does :(

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Anonymous #8 9w

genuine question, how did you get that from this post💀💀

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Anonymous OP 9w

“My man won’t let me” it’s right there bro

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Anonymous #8 9w

buddy you're projecting some sort of past experience or strawman onto this post. ....also if a grown adult feels the need to control what another grown adult wears, they need therapy or they arent a good match.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Not really a past expirence my gf respects my opinion( as do I towards her) to not wear such revealing things. I don’t want to control what anybody wears however I want somebody who respects themselves enough to choose not to wear something like that.

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Anonymous #8 9w

self respect doesnt just look one way. not everyone's version of self respect is going to match yours. ..also are you a MAN? on GIRL TALK? get tf out bro you're not welcome here

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Anonymous OP 9w

That’s true, but purposefully wearing “revealing” clothes while you have a parter is disrespectful period. Ngl I didn’t even know this was girl talk I got a random notification. First time here kinda excited

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Anonymous #8 9w

ill wear what i want because im an adult and not a damn baby. not everyone shares your same morals or views of the world. extremely close minded of you. i used to cover up bc i was insecure and hated my body. now i love it! i dont feel the need to hide it because im not ashamed anymore.

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Anonymous OP 9w

And if that’s your prerogative that’s great but telling people in relationships that they shouldn’t listen to their men is crazy no? Even in the foundation of relationships trust and listening is essential

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Anonymous #8 9w

listening to your partners feelings ≠ letting your wardrobe be controlled by another adult. hope this helps

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Anonymous OP 9w

Listening to your partner feelings is understand that your wardrobe could potentially be disrespectful to the relationship as a whole.

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Anonymous #8 9w

if they view my wardrobe as disrespectful then they don't trust me and we probably arent a good match.

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Anonymous OP 9w

Wearing nothing but lingerie during a public outing is disrespectful logically in so many different ways.

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Anonymous #8 9w

another strawman. nobody is doing that. just go out and find someone who fits you instead of giving your opinion as fact to people who dont give a fuck

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Anonymous OP 9w

That’s not a strawman at all it’s literally happening all the time😅

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Anonymous #10 9w

what is this even about

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Anonymous #8 9w

Yeah nobody is doing that. Contrary to your beliefs women don’t get dressed solely to get male attention. If you met her like that why do you expect her to stop? That’s like saying men only go to the gym to get women and when they get one they should stop. Or you meet someone raving and want them to stop after you get together. Not everything a woman does is for a man.

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Anonymous #6 9w

your reasoning for something shld never be bc your partner said so

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Anonymous #15 9w

then you have 0 serious relationship experience. you must be a teenager or something

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Anonymous darkside. 9w

dont let a man get in the way of your dreams babe ❤️💅

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type shit 😭

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Anonymous #15 9w

"my partner won't let me sleep with other people :((("

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Anonymous #15 9w

Well I mean I personally wouldn’t like if my bf went to a strip club w the homies Is that unreasonable to you?????

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Anonymous #15 9w

Also I don’t think it’s crazy that my bf would be uncomfortable if I went to the club **without him** wearing a miniskirt and a thong with my ass hanging out. It’s something I’m not bothered by complying with

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Anonymous OP 9w

Mouth hurt :(((

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Anonymous darkside. 9w

thats because ur a bad bitch now💅

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Anonymous #6 9w

but something that should be established is trust between the partners, miniskirt or not you should trust that even if another person is attracted to me, I would stay loyal and ignore them.

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Anonymous #22 9w

feelings of discomfort are completely valid but it doesn’t mean you have to stop going out, hell i prefer wearing sweats and a tank top or shirt to the bar.

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Anonymous #8 9w

personally i dress for myself and not the gaze of others, just a thought yk. Like maybe i like the way i look.

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Anonymous #26 9w

interesting cus my bf is ok w someone else buying me drink, but don’t want me in the club. like we were out together at a restaurant where a dude covered for my drink and he was ok w that. but let me mention going to the club just to hang w my friends and he’ll have a fit. he’s not even speaking to me rn cus of that 😐

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disagreed, shit not working out is also how u can meet some of the best friends of ur life.

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Anonymous #23 9w

or not even friends, js awesome people that you wanna know how they are doing, this is how people used to live, exs and current bfs used to kumbaya, either that or my whole entire family from here and up north is lying.

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Anonymous #23 9w

now, EVERYONE HAS A HUGE STICK UP THEIR ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous #18 9w

reawaken the baddie inside... she misses you..

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Anonymous #16 8w

??? i've been in a relationship for 5 years. you shouldn't do something simply because your partner wants you to do it, you should also want to do it too like help them around the house or spend time with them. i dont know if my partner did something just because i asked them that doesn't feel very genuine. same thing with not doing something, you shouldn't not cheat because your partner doesn't want you to you should just want to be loyal.

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Anonymous #20 8w

that's not what i meant but okay😭😭 drama much

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Anonymous #6 8w

that's not what i meant lol obviously if you're in a committed relationship you shouldn't go somewhere that's inherently sexual. you should want to not even put your partner in that situation to feel some type of way, it shouldn't be because they asked you not to do something yk. but also there has to be a level of independence, you should be able to go to the club with your friends without your partner having a problem with it, and that's not saying you're going to go in a mini skirt with a

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Anonymous #15 8w

thong up your ass because not everyone goes to the club/bar to hook up with strangers.

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Anonymous #22 8w

lmaoo. my bf tried saying that since he’s uncomfortable w me going to the club that’s reason for me to not go. like i hear you and i respect you and im gonna be vigilant, but you’re not my dad bro 😭

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Anonymous #18 8w

and i don’t even listen to my dad so the fact he thought that would work is wild!

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Anonymous #6 8w

Literally tho, a lot people need some growing up to do. People have boundaries/rules/restrictions that they communicate with their partner. Every couple should have these type of things! If I tell my partner I don’t want them to go to a strip club/party. I expect they should give me the same amount of rules too. Like not going to the bars, going to a party, or club with the girls. Been together with my partner for 7 years and rarely have these rules became an issue for us. Simple to follow.

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Anonymous #18 8w

Yikes then why are you with him? Obviously you want to be single/or at least act like it. Then when trust issues start become a problem, you’re going to get defensive right? Actually Respect your partner, that’s not respect if you go do it anyways just dismissing how they feel. This goes for both parties.

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Anonymous #19 8w

💀😂

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Anonymous #8 8w

Agreed!

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Anonymous OP 8w

Geez OP so mean for what..? You good girl?

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Anonymous #27 8w

glad that works out for you, but i could never imagine not going out with my girls just because i'm in a relationship😭 i have the most fun going out with my friends who are also in committed relationships because there's no drama, nobody's male centered, and we're just having fun doing karaoke or something until we call one of our bfs to pick us up. i also love going out with my single girlies and hyping them up too! different boundaries/personality styles i guess!

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Anonymous #27 8w

god i can smell the red pilled brain rot from here

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Anonymous #27 8w

it’s not that i don’t wanna be w him. i love and respect him or else i wouldn’t have agreed to be in a relationship. he’s allowed to tell me what he’s comfortable/uncomfortable w and vice versa. i’ll make a decision based on his opinion and on the situation, but he can’t just tell me what to do. we’re both adults. just cus i don’t want him to tell me what to do doesn’t mean i don’t wanna be in a relationship. i don’t tell him what to do so i expect the same…

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Anonymous #18 8w

literally!!!!

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Anonymous #15 8w

Your reasoning could be because they said no and you had a respectful conversation about it where you agreed not to. Should never tell other people that “my partner said no”, if you meant that I agree.

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Anonymous #28 8w

i agree with that take somewhat, i think it's the whole language of your partner saying no instead of coming to you and voicing their worries about the situation. but i agree as a partnership you should have conversations and agree on a compromise/solution, and like you said your reasoning should never be "because my partner said no" because that means your going with what they said instead of actually agreeing i totally agree with that

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