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Quick question for the girlies… is there a reason why y’all crack at home with your other girl roommates there instead of giving to a guys place?
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Anonymous 15w

I wouldn’t do it if they were like roommates as in share the room. But it’s much more safe than being trapped at a man’s place

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Anonymous 15w

I do not want other men to hear me having sex. But when I had roommates I would make a point to be quiet so as not to disturb my housemate

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Anonymous 15w

be in a house with girls 🥰 be in a house with all guys 😟

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Anonymous 15w

no this is such a valid question. asked my ex roommate if she could be quieter during sex and i got screamed at for sex shaming her. mind you her boyfriend had a single and never went there, where she could be as loud as she wanted

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

If you don’t trust a man why are you fucking him 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

But we don’t want to hear you having sec whereas men don’t really care that much

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

put on headphones 🤷🏻‍♀️ idk men also don’t wanna hear it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Bc horny? Guys change all the time I don’t fully trust anyone I’m in a relationship with bc they could start acting different at any point in time. And if they live with other guys why would u trust them over a couple women. Why does it bother u are they loud?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

I don’t think men care… I shouldn’t have to waste my battery on the devices I just spent up charging because you either can’t be bothered to go to someone else’s house to have sex or just wait 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

If a man is really that untrustworthy you aren’t safe in your own home either and NOW you’re bringing a dangerous, unstable man to a house full of women… but I’m glad for your input 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

well you aren’t men, some care some don’t (just like women) if your roommate is doing it too loud talk to them. if they won’t stop then you need to find a solution

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

I also feel like if you’re gonna do it at least give the roommates a heads up. Hearing it unprovoked is kinda crazy

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15w

You also aren’t men…. But I guess hit dogs holler

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Tbh I think you’re too worried about listening to other people have sex. Just put some headphones in and if they’re loud ask ur roommate next time to turn on the tv or something

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

it’s easy enough to know what bothers you doesn’t bother everyone 🤷🏻‍♀️ i’ve had roommates that refused and yk what i did found solutions bc they are shitty ppl who don’t care abt ur comfort. plus id rather my roommates near me if anything happens even if i dont like them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Girl. Men aren’t likely to hurt you in your home when you could kick them out or leave any time and you have people that care about you and wouldn’t tolerate that and would call the cops on him when I couldn’t

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

What is kicking out a man that wants to hurt you gonna do? And you’re taking the same amount of risk hoping your roommates will call as if you were at his place

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Anonymous 15w

This. I’ve heard many bad stories ab this even when it was the guys gf they let their friends do stuff..

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

Adding on.. men would not help a woman getting abused while women would

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

and before some people come at me, i had headphones on and i could still hear her

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

I was mostly just asking for the logic behind it but people started getting defensive 💔 it seems much more logical to go to a guys house imo

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

That actually would’ve pissed me off. I heard my next door roommate having sex one time too many and I just started BLASTING music with my noise cancellation on… it’s so sad

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

and people are like “i don’t trust going to a guys house that i don’t know cause i can’t trust the guy” why are you fucking someone you don’t trust. and you’re bringing a person you don’t trust to a house with girls…it doesn’t make sense to me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

Girl we gave you the logic behind it and you started fighting😭 most of us are uncomfortable going to have sex with a guy in an apartment/dorm with other guys there. Thats it. Thats the logic. Obviously if the guy doesn’t have a roommate then it might be different, but most of the time if I have to pick between a house full of women and a house full of guys I’m going to pick the house of women, even if I trust the guy I’m fucking.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

THANK YOU IT STILL DOESNT MAKE SENSE!!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

You cannot trust anyone in this world what’s not getting through

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

Well that’s not very logical to me… maybe you took my proding as being argumentative but I’m still confused

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

& people are giving you their logical reasons NOT to go to a guys house and you’re dismissing them. you could just agree to disagree instead of doubling down and invalidating their opinions

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 15w

Someone already said that, but thanks!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

Besides even if it’s not a trust thing…maybe we just want to be in the comfort of our own home and bed and not at someone else’s place??

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

Ok…. I’m understanding the type of people y’all are 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

so you’re okay with not trusting a guy yet still wanting to fuck him? he can still do bad things to you at your own place. you run a higher risk of std’s if you’re hooking up with someone you don’t trust, he can very well lie about how clean he is. i’m just confused on why you don’t want to trust someone you’re fucking and the logic hasn’t been explained yet to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

I was ab to say not only that. This is a free country ppl can have sex when they want. Communicate if it’s an issue. There are roommates much worse. Also men’s houses are actually disgusting if they’re under 25. You can’t control other people so if they’re irritating you by living.. move out, complain to ras or whatever, or just talk ab it. Hearing ppl do it especially them upstairs neighbors is just a part of life

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

I’m guessing it’s because there is no logic. The only explanation has been “because horny” so….

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

That’s actually not true, you can’t have sex in public and it’s inconsiderate to not at least give your roommates a heads up….no one is saying you can’t but you def run the risk of being judged

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

ah yes the classic “i’m horny so let me fuck some random i don’t know and can’t trust in my room so nothing bad will happen” so safe!!!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

what type of person is that? I’ve been in a relationship for three years and when it came down to it I still picked having him over instead of going to his place because in college you don’t get to pick your roommate sometimes and his roommates weren’t always friends. I trust my partner. There was only one time where I went to his apartment instead of mine while he had three roommates he didn’t know well and we were BOTH uncomfortable at the idea that they might hear us because men are WEIRD

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

If you’re uncomfortable with sex that’s fine but don’t be shaming other women for their decisions.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

I’m not gonna sit here and coddle and excuse y’all because you lose your mind over some dick 😭😭😭😭😭 there’s nothing wrong with having sex but being inconsiderate of other people and only caring about your own comfort is crazy. And I would’ve been more understanding if y’all made any indication that you gave your roommates a heads up but it seems like y’all just try to sneak and hope they don’t find out 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

When has anyone said that. The conversation wasn’t about “giving your roommate a heads up” it was about why women prefer having a man over instead of going to his place. Just say you’re a prude and like shaming women for having sex and go.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

People keep saying I’m not open to understanding and I just gave you an example of what I would understand. You keep commenting to my comments under other comments but you still pretend you lack context 💔 and thanks for not acknowledging anything else that I said

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