
girl it doesn’t matter what other people think is cheating or not, it only matters what YOU think is cheating. Those are YOUR boundaries and he should respect them. I don’t know your relationship and I don’t know what he’s like so I’m not going to say you should definitely break up, but at least talk to him and tell him that he hurt you. If he doesn’t respect your feelings and change his behavior then…
I dont consider porn cheating, OF is questionable because you’re seeking specific people, my boyfriend and I both watch porn, but he honestly has started looking at my pictures more instead, however, I do consider him using someone’s instagram page very strange, it’s so much more personal than just a porn site
As a girl that has been cheated on in my relationship multiple times (dming girls, snapping girls, tinder, dates, etc. but no physical stuff) it’s hard to say. Everyone in the world can give you advice and say one thing but in the end it’s up to you. Can you live without this person? Are you willing to work through it? Are you willing to go through it again? These are all questions I had to ask myself and in the end- there is nobody in the world I would want to be with but him.
See and I have heard ppl defend paying for it as like “not contributing to the toxic p0rn culture that abuses women and never pays them” but PAYING someone on OF feels a little more prostitute-y and intimate. Especially bc you can pay to talk to them and stuff too. Which I would DEFINITELY consider edging into true infidelity.