Girl Talk on Sidechat | hey girls need advice. js found out the guy i’ve gone on a couple dates with has a body count of like 20+. i’m a virgin n find that kinda gross is that a valid dealbreaker?? like he’s trying to look for smth serious now and had a bad past? idk lmk

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Girl Talk 13h

hey girls need advice. js found out the guy i’ve gone on a couple dates with has a body count of like 20+. i’m a virgin n find that kinda gross is that a valid dealbreaker?? like he’s trying to look for smth serious now and had a bad past? idk lmk

Anonymous 13h

drop him bc that’s actually kinda gross… what kind of proof can he give you that he wants something serious tho, is he just saying that to hit? does he think he can smash and take ur virginity? is that all he wants? rlly think abt it plz, men are disgusting pigs

Anonymous 12h

Some people may disagree which is okay, but usually being on the same page or close to it with experience is really important your first time. At least for me it’s helped me feel a lot more comfortable doing things since it’s not a power imbalance of me being fully new and the other person being super experienced, and instead we’re both on the same page of figuring things out. This of course is very subjective and may not apply to you, but either way this is 100% okay being a dealbreaker.

Anonymous

#1 13h

i ain’t letting him hit i am not easy i said that very straight up to him dw😭 he said he’s been celibate for 8 months now but im js not sure if i can look past that yk! and agreed men r nasty asf which is why i kinda feel like he has bad intentions

Anonymous

OP 13h

TRUST. UR. GUT. listen to ur gut and trust those instincts, it rlly is gross if hes put his dick in that many girls, like does he have no self respect?? i bet he would NEVER get with a girl with over 20 bodies. u deserve someone u feel comfortable with, its not wrong to reject him bc of that, its just a preference yk

Anonymous

#1 13h

thank u i needed to hear this ill drop him🙏 agreed the lack of self respect is crazy and i hate the double standards of body count for men vs women. like u nasty 😭😭tysm for the advice

Anonymous

OP 13h

OFC. never forget ur worth girl, and always remind the girls in ur life of their worth ❤️❤️

Anonymous

#2 12h

I think you’re allowed to want a partner to have a similar sexual experience to you and can do that without judgement or disrespecting someone who doesn’t match what you want. It just means you guys aren’t compatible and that’s okay. (Ofc this gets messy when it’s guys with hella experience wanting girls with no experience for gross reasons, or guys only wanting virgins for misogynistic views and not just as a personal preference in shared experience)

Anonymous

#2 12h

i agree i normally feel this way and have always wanted someone with similar views on intimacy! i feel like now that ive gotten to uni everyone is probably more experienced than me and i should maybe try to be more experimental. but ur right i should probably stick to my morals and find someone with a similar experience level to me ty:))

Anonymous

OP 12h

Ofc! I’m also in uni and me and my bf have dated for nearly 2 years and have only just started doing things and it’s so much more comforting knowing I’m not falling behind or the only one who’s awkward with things. I have a roomate wirh more experience and she said the first time is always super nerve wracking as well, but after that it becomes a lot less anxiety inducing. So for your first time I’d say definitely stick with your morals! You’ll find your people!

Anonymous

#2 12h

that actually gives me sm hope that i’ll find someone who’s willing to wait to be intimate 🙏 im so happy you found someone perfect for you that’s so sweet 🥹