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I understand why people say sex under the influence can’t ever be consensual but I think that’s really over generalized and it made me feel so guilty for wanting to have drunk/high sex when in reality it’s soooo common
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Anonymous 3d

yeah i def like there’s some nuance. like me and my gf have had sex when we’re both drunk/high and ofc it was consensual. i think this sentiment is bc in the majority of cases where this is brought up, one party is like blackout WASTED and the other is sober and took advantage of them

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Anonymous 3d

i don’t agree with having sex under the influence for myself personally bc you can’t consent. there’s a very fine line so i just stay away from it. however, people can do what they want regarding their sex lives.

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Anonymous 3d

I agree 100%. My gf and I have high/drunk sex all the time and in the beginning I felt weird ab it but we both consent before, consent during, and are there for each other after so I’ve become very comfy with it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

Yeah and that totally makes sense!! But it made me feel sooo lost that other scenarios are rarely acknowledged

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

I think that’s a totally fair boundary to have for yourself but I do think I personally can consent as long as within a reasonable limit and I kind of resent the idea that no one is capable of consenting under the influence. It’s definitely more dubious that I will accept, but I rarely get so drunk or high that I don’t feel in control

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

i feel like it’s totally different if you’re too drunk or blacked out. at that point i would say you can’t consent ykwim. there’s just a fine line

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

I’ve never blacked out tbh so it’s kind of hard for me to imagine but yeah I think I would be against that. Cause part of my practice is like checking in the day after and making sure we were both okay with everything we did. If we can’t remember then what yk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

i mean if you have sex w someone blacked out and the person isn’t aware of what’s going on that’s considered assault.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

like if you can check in and have conversations that makes more sense but as someone who has been blacked out before unintentionally i would consider someone having sex w me in that state as sexual assault

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3d

Yes I totally agree. I was more imagining like if I had sex w someone and then we both ended up blacking out like not remembering the night before that would be really scary.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

yeah no it’s so scary fr i don’t remember doing things from that night

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3d

I’m starting to think this is a lesbian thing cuz why am I only hearing lesbian couples be like yeah we do this lmao (me included)

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