Anonymous OP 4w

The whole idea of feminism is that women have the same rights and I’m also assuming, personhood as men. So why should we act differently and carry some random responsibility like this when dating, and why are so many women fine with accepting that oh “She lost him because she slept with him too early”. Point of feminism is that we have the right to CHOOSE if we want to sleep with someone or not. We’re loosing some of that rn bc you’ll be blamed for something that has nothing to do with you.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Point is that responsibility of if a relationship even happens shouldn’t be put on the woman in such a large way. If both parties are ready and want it, then it'll happen simple as that. Why has it become so popular to blame the woman for "not choosing well" and "sleeping with him so soon". Men are literally also people and have the ability to BE better and consent to sex too. In a way, it's excusing men for what they may lack and putting all the blame on women in these situations.

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Anonymous #1 4w

Thank yew I’ve beeen living by this a lot

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Anonymous OP 4w

Something I’ve been noticing with myself (not going to articulate this well, very tired) is sometimes my brain slips out of my own perspective and into the perspective of the guys I’m interested in. When I do that and start to think about strategizing and how to get them to like me or how to get whatever outcome I want, I notice immediate value slippage. I think our brains are naturally hardwired to strategize and solve problems so it’s easy to slip into but then it compromises your integrity

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Anonymous OP 4w

Like if we were thinking from our own perspectives we would sleep with the guys we want to sleep with when we want to (assuming consent and stuff, of course) and it’s only when we view things from external perspectives that the shame and doubt comes in but like fuck the external perspectives when it’s your body

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Anonymous #1 4w

That’s so true and i feel like it’s a part of empathy in some way to be able to put yourself in others shoes. Empathy is such a good trait to have but it can also be weaponized against you when you have it for other people but they don’t have it for you. Like it’s more freeing to live how we want and not have anxiety about what the other person is thinking.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Definitely. And I think the value of empathy differs a lot in different contexts. Like it’s great for evaluating how your actions will impact others but destructive when you start to view how other people may or may not judge you based on values you may not share with them and then internalize those potential judgements

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Anonymous #2 4w

Yeah my family made me feel like a whore bro

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