Girl Talk on Sidechat | I know body insecurities are VERY common, and they are a significant factor in many women’s lives, but I feel like it’s inconsiderate to vocalize those feelings about yourself outside of therapy or serious convos within close relationships. (cont.)

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Girl Talk 1d

I know body insecurities are VERY common, and they are a significant factor in many women’s lives, but I feel like it’s inconsiderate to vocalize those feelings about yourself outside of therapy or serious convos within close relationships. (cont.)

Anonymous 1d

Like, it’s one thing to acknowledge that you’re in your head about your body, but to look in the mirror and say something derogatory about your weight is hurting not only you, but also the women around you who are also probably struggling with those feelings

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Anonymous 1d

that’s an issue w ur friend. it’s not an issue to discuss it w people u trust. it just depends on how u go about it.

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Anonymous 1d

you’re in the right, your feelings are valid.

Anonymous 1d

yeah, I have to say it’s extremely uncomfortable when people constantly bring up negative things about their body in front of you but shoot down any positive things you say. like what the hell am I supposed to say and why do you not care that you’re making everyone uncomfortable?

Anonymous

OP 1d

I have a friend who is thinner than me who will talk about how she’s “so fat and gross” and it not only makes me sad for her, it also makes me wonder about how she privately views me

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egghead. 1d

To clarify, I think it’s healthy to have honest conversations about how you perceive yourself in your body, but having that kind of self aware conversation is different than just stating derogatory things about yourself as fact. These are serious discussions worth having with people you feel safe with, but the changing room at h&m is neither the time nor place

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Anonymous

OP 1d

absolutely i agree. also there is a MAJOR difference then just oh i hate this and fat that. i dont want to sound terrible, but a lot of people say shlte like that just to fish for validation, and even then they dont actually take it to heart, they just want to hear it. i hope this doesn’t sound awful. i’m just saying i get where you’re coming from, and like i said earlier, context matters.

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Anonymous

egghead. 1d

in this situation, fk that. you deserve to be around someone who can speak constructively, in a way that is also respectful to you.