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mother_russia

 Do you know I hate? Women who act like it’s anti feminist or something to be into BDSM and be submissive or a bottom. Like “I’m feminist everywhere except the bedroom” like BOOOOOO being feminist doesn’t mean you cant choose to be submissive to someone
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Anonymous 2d

The whole point of feminism is that women aren’t /inherently/ submissive to anyone but not that we can’t /choose/ to be submissive and enjoy things like that. Feminists are still feminists regardless of if they are dominant or submissive or both.

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Anonymous 2d

I like how kink has given me the language and power to fully control what goes on in my sex life. We have around 8 types of safewords, we have a list of my limits, and honestly it is whatever I say goes. I would not have this language if not for the community that I love so much. Yes I am submissive, yes I am a feminist, and I think what makes it feel safe is that I am letting him hold the power, but it will never be his. Idk that’s just how I feel.

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Anonymous 2d

I don’t like the whole “BDSM community” in general

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Anonymous 2d

If you truely believe it’s okay for men to abuse and hit women in any capacity even for sexual gratification you simply aren’t the feminist you think you are. It isn’t about equality— it’s about dismantling this entire system of women’s pain.

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Anonymous 2d

It actually is very much. Radical feminism is the only feminism.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2d

REAL

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

That’s fair, it’s not for everyone and there are a lot of people who hide behind the name of it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I see it similar to scooba diving, when you are doing it with the proper equipment and instruction it can be a great experience for someone looking for it and excited to try, but when it is done poorly or with someone who doesn’t like deep water or small spaces, it can be a nightmare and end up with someone hurt.

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Anonymous 2d

Oh that’s not…

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Anonymous 2d

Being into power dynamics doesn’t make you not a feminist. Now doing power dynamics with sexist men and giving them the power over you… that’s definitely controversial to feminism. But being submissive sexually and consequentially with a partner you know and trust? That’s fine.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2d

🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

same. like i’m not anti bdsm, but i think its dumb to call people boring for not being into bdsm. i think their strict rules for consent are cool tho (if followed correctly).

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

You’re not boring, just not into what we are! Anyone who says otherwise can suck my gigantic (27 foot) cock. I hate some of the people in my community who are such elitists abt it!

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

Oh absolutely! To each their own!

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

Honestly it sounds like you don’t know much about BDSM. If you are open to learning about it with the psychological and physical experience and effects it has and why people would /want/ to be hit (which not all BDSM is hitting and people can be into it without wanting to do pain play) then you can dm me and I can explain. Otherwise you should refrain from condemning a topic you don’t understand.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2d

I will not. Just because I don’t like it doesn’t mean I don’t understand it. There’s obviously things you could learn from feminism as well.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

When I was younger someone had told me BDSM and feminism could co exist and I was baffled, so I started learning about it in a psychology capacity and realized it’s a so very different than what movies, media, and pornography portrayed it as.

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 2d

Anything pornography depicts is dishonest and abuse, just like BDSM.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

Not at all. BDSM isn’t dishonest or abuse 💀 the fact that you are saying those things is exactly how I know you don’t understand what BDSM actually is, not that you aren’t into it. If you ever change your mind about actually learning rather than judging everyone, you can dm me or just ask in a comment section. If not, I hope you have a good night.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

pornography has historically been made for the sexual interests of men and objectifies women for this purpose, so it is true that pornography does not align with feminism. From what i have seen, the BDSM community is almost militant about consent and advocates for every person’s sexual interests. In this environment, women have bodily autonomy and the ability to advocate for themselves, which is a big part of what feminism advocates for.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

Absolutely! Well said! Pornography is extremely exploitative and rooted in sexism, racism, and homophobia to be so for real

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