Anonymous #5 22h

The point is about respect. If you want to be respected like a man? Act like a man. That includes having the strength to control your emotions, and being a protector of your family. If you hit your wife you are not a man, simple as that, you are a pussy because you hit the person you are meant to protect and can't handle an equal fight.

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Anonymous #5 22h

Still do 🤷‍♀️

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DV survivor, pressed charges, and won. So yes, I'm quite familiar with how these injustices work. Cute idea though😬

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Anonymous #3 22h

Fair enough. I hope every woman who choses to be a sahw/sahm has a husband who loves and respects them. I just personally don’t think I could ever fully rely on a man to have that much control over my life—the hand that feeds you can also starve you

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Anonymous #5 21h

Oh absolutely! But that's what I mean. If you want a traditional woman, you need to be worthy and trustworthy enough as a man so that your woman is never feeling unstable. Unfortunately that does not exist atm because of how entitled men in our society are, even if there is good men out there, as a DV survivor, it's hard to fully trust when so much evil lurks

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Anonymous #6 21h

And period!! A fellow survivor myself, I'm so proud 🥹

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Anonymous #3 21h

Proud of us ❤️ Justice looks different for everyone, but a piece of paper doesn’t erase the consequences of someone’s actions or the lasting impact on survivors. We keep moving forward, holding people accountable, and paving a better path for those who come after us. We got this 🎖️🪖💜

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Anonymous #8 21h

Not necessarily but they allowed for men to do these things. They allowed for negative systems but didn't necessary permit it ykwim? To the bare bones, traditional relationships are about mutual respect, a man provides for his family and protects them, a woman cares for the home, and they both respect the sanctity of marriage, both are mother and father to their children. See? THAT is traditional. cheating, autonomy violation, addiction is abuse not traditional.

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Anonymous #3 21h

They absolutely are “traditional” because “traditional” relationships (which are really anything but because there is no standard or default) were based in women being subservient and being treated as the property of a man. There’s no mutual respect in limiting what one partner’s role is or defining what it “should” be.

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Anonymous #11 19h

To add, I notice that many stay at home moms today usually have husbands that are extremely wealthy and can afford to hire nannys while their wives pursue hobbies or even education. A lot of these men can’t afford that.

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Anonymous #2 19h

OUT.

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Anonymous #2 19h

tf you doing in girl talk

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Anonymous #9 19h

Out.

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Anonymous #12 18h

Let me invade a woman’s space so I can get credit for doing the bare minimum!

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Anonymous #14 17h

Love that for you, queen, fr. If you can afford it, what's holding you back, honestly? I don't see anything wrong with that. That’s your choice, and I support it.

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Anonymous #6 17h

Thank you queen, honestly I was a bit worried I was gonna get jumped at for that being what I hope for my life. I support all other aspirations for my other girlies, I just grew up in a really toxic household so part of me wants to flip that around for my own future kids to give them what I didn’t have. Gotta get finances 100% in order first, they’re getting there tho

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Anonymous #14 17h

I definitely aspire to be a working mom and have a career I love while raising a family. But if my career ever came at the expense of my kids, it would have to take a back seat. I grew up in a difficult household too, so I know how much a child’s upbringing matters. If I choose to bring a child into this world, being a good mom and giving them the best life possible will always come first. I truly respect your position, too!

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Anonymous #14 17h

Oh dude, yeah I know we should be supporting a lot more stay at home mothers and wives if that’s what they would like- just do not end up in a financially abusive situation! A lot of people are unable to get out of DV situations purely because they just do not have the financials to take care of themselves and their kids!

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Anonymous #11 17h

I’m actually a survivor of domestic violence, and I fully support a woman’s choice to be a stay-at-home mom in a loving, healthy, and safe partnership. DV comes in all forms, and there is no such thing as a “perfect victim.” Every woman’s circumstances and choices are different, and we should respect that.

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Anonymous #11 17h

Luckily I found a super supportive, caring, and kind man who has a really pure heart, so I know for my circumstances I’m safe, and also that he has said time and time again that being a provider would bring him so much joy to know he’s taking care of those he loves, but I feel for so many women who are put in a really tough position financially

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Anonymous #6 17h

I’m so sorry you experienced that. DV, like you said, can happen in so many forms. My household was definitely toxic with how my father treated my mother, but it’s hard for me to gather whether or not I myself was an emotional and verbal violence victim. Deep down I know I likely am, but it’s hard to fully accept

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Anonymous #14 15h

Even within families. Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate, and children are victims too. “Victim” is a legal and social reality, not an identity or an insult. You can be both a victim and a survivor. The shame belongs to the abuser, not the person who endured it! Sending you love and hugs 💜❤️

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Anonymous #14 15h

Me too! After experiencing family violence, I found a supportive partner who has shown me what real love is supposed to look like. You got this, diva! I support your ambitions wholeheartedly. ❤️

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Anonymous #6 15h

No one is saying that being rich automatically makes you a domestic abuser- just do not fall into the trap of being entirely financially reliant on him. I’ve been the victim of and still currently volunteer at the middle way house in Bloomington- it’s a lot easier to get away from a man if you have a good support system and enough money. Also, even if it’s not that situation he can leave you and then you have to explain the résumé gap to a work culture that still struggles to accept moms

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Anonymous #6 14h

Thank you queen I really appreciate your kind words. I think the hardest thing for me is I keep telling myself what I went through “wasn’t that bad” or that it “could have been worse” and compare my experience to how horrific others have had it. So in a way I feel like maybe I’m ungrateful? Maybe what I experienced wasn’t REALLY emotional or verbal abuse? Idk. And I have trouble remembering lots of parts from my childhood as I blocked a lot out over the years

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Anonymous #11 14h

It's incredibly difficult to be financially dependent on someone who is supposed to be your caretaker, especially when that person is also your abuser. Domestic violence doesn't just affect romantic relationships or IPV. It affects entire families, including children who depend on their abusers for basic necessities, financial stability, and a safe place to live. We need to recognize that family violence is domestic violence, too

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Anonymous #14 14h

It's incredibly difficult to be financially dependent on someone who is supposed to be your caretaker, especially when that person is also your abuser. Domestic violence doesn't just affect romantic relationships or IPV. It affects entire families, including children who depend on their abusers for necessities, financial stability, and a safe place to live. We need to recognize that family violence is domestic violence, too. Your reality is real, and you have support. ❤️💜🥰

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