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Sometimes I go through stages where I just wanna cut all my friends off and start over. I know it’s toxic and probably a result of being avoidant/attachment issues but I constantly feel undervalued in all my connections
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Anonymous 2d

This is how I feel rn. I feel like a floater, imposing on life, and that no one cares as much as I do.

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Anonymous 2d

It might be a bipolar thing if it’s happening in waves, could be a “okay I’m done being treated like shit” in your mania and a “oh damn I really need people even if the relationships are shitty” in your depression (coming from someone with bpd)

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Anonymous 2d

i actually woke up one day and cut off my whole friend group. i had reasons. few created beef because i left 2 never asked why or how i was but texted me about random things. i’ve actually been growing on my own and made new friends.

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Anonymous 2d

You sound really mature and self aware and your feelings about feeling undervalued are valid, even if you have reasons to judge yourself for how you want to respond to those feelings. Trust yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

But regardless: build at least 1 solid friendship that you feel valued in! Rather than making your goal to cut everyone off, make it to make one good friendship and THEN you can start cutting people off

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I’ve looked at the diagnostic criteria for both bipolar 1 and 2 but I don’t believe I have either of them. I don’t really experience mania either, just long bouts of depression and anxiety

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I do want to make an effort to make more friends in the future but I’m so burnout and jaded from friendships Im just preferring to stay to myself these days. I still make effort to go to social events though, even if I don’t talk to anyone just to get out of my apartment and out of my head

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

That’s valid! Depression and anxiety come in their own waves outside of mania and bipolar. I’m glad you’ve been paying attention to your mental health🩵 it sounds like impulsively-ish cutting off your friends would be a very good thing for you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I don’t think I’ll actually cut them off bc I know it’s unhealthy but for now I’m keeping my distance bc I didn’t have the emotional capacity to show up as a friend right now

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