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my bf wants to follow wedding traditions and not see each other the morning of but that came from arranged marriages and i want to see my future husband the morning before he becomes my husband??? i wanna wake and bake together and have breakfast :(
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Anonymous 3d

idk like i get superstitions esp as someone with ocd but that specific tradition came from such bullshit and i know my anxiety and hes my safe place and im gonna be so nervous about everything and i’ll just be wanting him all day and im gonna be so stressed and not being able to see him to calm down is gonna make it all just so much worse

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Anonymous 3d

all of this said we’ve been together 5 months and we’re 22 and he doesn’t wanna get married till 25 cuz everyone he’s seen get married before that has crashed and burned so i’ve got time to give him my reasons and come up with a compromise or a solution or something LMAO

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Girl it is way too early to be worried about this

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

yeah 5 months in worried about your wedding day is wayyyyyy too fast that kinda timeline is for u-haul lesbians only

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

there’s no such thing as too fast only what society thinks. for us it’s not too fast. when you know you know and neither of us have ever been more sure of something. if we were 25 already we’d be married in march of next year probably. i worry about it because we’ve talked about it before because we genuinely want to marry each other and spend the rest of our lives together

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

you’re 5 months in and clearly don’t have very much experience with relationships and can’t mediate small conflicts like whether to see eachother on your wedding day morning. you’re barely past the honeymoon phase of course you think you’re gonna get married and run away together. that’s fine it’s fine to be really into someone all ok actually saying is to be gentle with yourself and take your time. enjoy yourself and your relationship, if you’re right that they’re the one you’ve got a looooong

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

time together ahead and pushing yourself really hard right now isn’t going to change that at all and will instead just add more strain onto the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

you don’t know shit about me other than this one post where i was being dramatic and worrying about my future. i don’t need to explain my relationship to you but this is a complete non issue and yall are being even more dramatic than i was

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

if you’re just gonna get defensive then go ahead but they are right that 5 months is a bit too soon to be this stressed about your wedding

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