Anonymous #1 4w

she judges other women based only on their appearance (why is he settling? why is her personality/achievements not taken into account?), judges HERSELF based only on appearance (why else would she care if she’s hotter than her EX’S partner), and obsesses over a man (again. this is her EX. why does she CARE.) and at the end of the day the only person really being insulted is his new gf who’s done nothing wrong.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Bro it’s really not that deep. She just had a break up

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Anonymous OP 4w

Literallyyyy

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Anonymous #2 4w

For real like what is hating on a girl you don’t know gonna do

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Anonymous #3 4w

Agreed, y’all are acting like she should just be cool or something with having to see her ex with another girl. Sorry but life doesn’t work like that!

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Anonymous #1 4w

She should! And if there’s negative feelings process that on your own. Why do you have to say the new girl is ugly while processing being upset about a break up. That’s all we’re pointing at

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Anonymous #2 4w

Maybe she is ugly? Who are we to say anything?

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Anonymous #1 4w

everything i said just went in one ear and out the other huh

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Anonymous OP 4w

Why don’t you answer my question

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Anonymous #1 4w

… the question of whether or not she’s ugly? why are you putting that much emphasis on a woman’s appearance? why does that matter? why is that the ONLY metric to judge whether or not someone ‘upgraded’ or ‘downgraded’ in partners? reread what i’ve already said to you

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Anonymous OP 4w

Girl, stop trying to ride a morality high horse here. Her ex was dating another girl, possibly immediately after she got dumped. Of COURSE she’s gonna be a little resentful at her, and her taking pride at the supposed “mid-ness” of his new gf was her saving face. Everyone here could tell that before you went on your sanctimonious brigade

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Anonymous #1 4w

why are you writing fanfiction to justify her reaction to a girl that’s done absolutely nothing to her? we don’t know anything other than what she posted. regardless of that… why is a woman’s appearance the beginning and end of her worth? why does asking that upset you so much?

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Anonymous #1 4w

and if she’s so resentful why isn’t she taking that out on her ex? why is it easier to go after a woman than the man she’s actually upset with?

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Anonymous #1 4w

That’s the problem. Why are we normalizing having RESENT for a WOMAN who was not done anything but enter a relationship with someone you can’t have access to anymore. Why not go dang I hate that my ex is really moving on. We’re asking why it’s ok to be rude to the girl and not just be upset in general. That’s what’s weird af and all yall are defending it are the problem bc men see this and feel validated to use women as social markers bc WE ARE USING OURSELVES AS SOCIAL MARKERS AND THAT IS BAD

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Anonymous #2 4w

THANK YOU.

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Anonymous OP 4w

You’re reading way too much into an anonymous social media post. She was just celebrating that her exs new girlfriend was less hot than she was. She never called her ugly or whatever, she just held her own self esteem and refused to feel put down that her ex was dating someone else. Honestly that just sounds healthy. I don’t know why you keep making it a gender war

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Anonymous #2 4w

Cuz it’s not about the patriarchy. It was never about the patriarchy. It’s about one girl trying to save face while being forced to interact or see her ex with another woman. That’s it

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Anonymous #1 4w

she immediately and ONLY complained about her looks. if she said “my ex’s new partner is so mean/selfish/unmotivated etc etc etc” this would be a completely different convo bc it would be her personality that was being criticized, not just her looks. but acting like the only way to upgrade/downgrade (which are already really immature and shitty ways to think about it) is by physical appearance is literally textbook misogyny. its saying the only thing that matters and that a woman can bring to a

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Anonymous #6 4w

You don’t know if the girl was innocent. Maybe the bf and girl cheated on OP and OP was celebrating that the other girl lost her pretty privileges. We just don’t know

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Anonymous OP 4w

We do that all the time. As a species we are visual first and like it or not we DO judge people based on appearances. So honestly her response, whether you might moralistically disagree with it, is entirely natural

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Anonymous OP 4w

relationship is her looks. idc if she was just venting. someone can be upset and can be misogynistic at the same time. she literally said he was SETTLING because she’s more attractive. what if his new partner is really nice? or they get along really well and motivate each other to be successful? also i hate to say it but the patriarchy has leeched into every aspect of our life. the way women talk and view each other - especially when a woman reduces another to JUST her looks - is exactly what

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Anonymous OP 4w

the patriarchy wants. it wants us fighting over men and viewing each other as competition and only valuing our looks

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Anonymous #1 4w

And that’s why we aren’t gonna beat it bc so many woman cannot understand that the way we talk about ourselves directly empower the patriarchy when it’s like this. So many guys are gonna see that and now feel good about using women against each other. It’s never too deep bc that mindset is being spoken about by women and you can’t even see the issue bc you lack that much perspective

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Anonymous OP 4w

What if his new girlfriend and him conspired and cheated against her? Again you don’t know the full story 😭

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Anonymous #1 4w

i don’t care if it’s natural, it’s still worth criticizing. i’m really hoping you have more to say bc if this is your response to what i said i genuinely don’t know what else to say to you

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Anonymous #1 4w

You don’t either I guarantee if that was the case she would have mentioned that. The post is deleted so that should tell you a bit on where her intentions were

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Anonymous #1 4w

neither do you?? jesus christ you are bending over backwards trying to justify her response. it’s almost like some part of you knows it’s wrong!

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Anonymous #1 4w

that doesnt matter u dont have to tear someone down for it

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Anonymous #6 4w

to boost urself?? like gain confidence from something else

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m not bending over backwards lmao I’m stating the facts we don’t know the whole situation. If he cheated and she still went to drag the girl even more validating of my point tbh bc not not say I hate my cheating ex lmaooo

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Anonymous #2 4w

queen i didn’t say you were. 1 is with the random idea that the ex cheated when there was nothing to hint at that in the original post. i agree we don’t know the full story, just what she posted, and that’s what i’m basing my criticisms off of

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Anonymous OP 4w

What she posted might have been cringey but isn’t inherently bad and it’s something I know a TON of girls at my school say at a regular basis about other women, myself included

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Anonymous #1 4w

no actually judging and insulting a girl you have no connection to and who did nothing wrong and acting like she’s ‘worse’ than you bc you personally don’t find her attractive IS inherently bad. i really don’t know any other way to explain it to you. acting like the only worth a woman has in a relationship is her physically appearance is BAD

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Anonymous #4 4w

What was the video?

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