Girl Talk on Sidechat | 1: i need advice. my boyfriend showed me an ultraviolent movie (sexually and physically) and didn’t really tell me anything about it before putting it on other than it was one of his favorites. it really upset me as it was graphic and disturbing. +

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Girl Talk 1w

1: i need advice. my boyfriend showed me an ultraviolent movie (sexually and physically) and didn’t really tell me anything about it before putting it on other than it was one of his favorites. it really upset me as it was graphic and disturbing. +

Anonymous 1w

Im super involved in the film community irl and online and would run from a man like that. If he actually cared about any sort of message behind what hes watching he would understand why you're upset. It sounds like he just wants to see it happen

Anonymous 1w

2: i made him turn it off after the 1st 30 minutes i really i couldn’t watch anymore. it shocked me that he didn’t warn me, but he said it wasn’t his responsibility to warn me about every movie he puts on. he didn’t think it was that bad. it’s just a movie. it’s not real. i didn’t ask questions about its ratings, he doesn’t understand why i reacted to the movie with such a negative view (movie was rated X, now rated R).

Anonymous 1w

3: i feel like this is a red flag. he’s okay with this movie, but he refuses to watch anything with cheating, or sexual relationships with multiple people in a realistic setting. because this movie is so absurd, the *nonconcentual* relationships don’t bother him. he says it’s because he has been cheated on, but has never experienced the other scenario. and, it’s an absurd movie, not realistic. am i crazy for freaking out???

Anonymous 1w

any normal person would warn someone before suggesting that fucking movie. he’s either into the violence or he likes to see you uncomfortable or he’s stupid and disregarding your opinion especially as a woman. either way he’s a dickhead

Anonymous 1w

to not even be super apologetic after your reaction is also a terrible sign. he didn't do a single thing right in this scenario

Anonymous

OP 1w

Ur absolutely not crazy for ‘freaking out,’ sexual and physical violence is very traumatic- usually a lot more than getting cheated on. His inability to be compassionate is scary and a red flag

Anonymous

OP 1w

i agree w #1 but also in general it’s your preference of what you want to watch. like if it was a horror movie with a bunch of jumpscares, you might want to know beforehand. you’re definitely not being dramatic. it’s a red flag. he should care

Anonymous

#3 1w

movie was a clockwork orange. he said in order to get the message i need to watch the movie and wouldn’t explain the meaning to me after i stated i deeply didn’t like it. he said “yeah its dark and what the character does is wrong but its absurdism” (what ive been studying in my theatre class)

Anonymous

OP 1w

That’s crazy, I’ve always heard that movie referenced but had no idea it was like that until I googled it. Even the first few seconds of the auto play of its trailer freaked me out

Anonymous

OP 1w

Thats so pretentious of him ngl. Movies like that are better after being discussed. There are entire conversations dedicated just to talking about why its so disturbing, including the year it was made, something you can't get just from watching it.

Anonymous

#3 1w

I don't know him, so I can't say much, but it seems like he's doubling down on trying to look like he understands something he doesn't, or is genuinely emotionally unintelligent. Maybe both. I'm not going to jump and say break up, but definitely assess it