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Girl Talk 19w
A guy friend ive known for a long time just randomly joked about the time I got SA’d. I just said “lol” and didnt respond to anything else he said. I dont really wanna msg him anymore. Idk if I should give it time and msg him later or do I cut him off?
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Anonymous 19w

Is that an acceptable way you want to be treated after being disrespected? You could approach him and see his reasoning for the joke and if it’s not satisfactory, you don’t have to keep him in your life. 💕I’m sorry that happened

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Anonymous 19w

no bc tht shouldn't even be something u have to tell ppl they shouldn't joke about. completely valid to distance urself

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Anonymous 19w

yeah that’s not a joke and nothing about it is funny. it’s my opinion that if you continue a friendship with him, you’re disrespecting yourself to oblivion. i can’t imagine thinking twice about that. cut him off.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19w

if u don't wanna cut him off u can let him knw u won't tolerate something like that being joked abt and see how he reacts

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19w

ur right. I just dont wanna seem sensitive because I usually tolerate jokes like that but thats one of the few things I prefer ppl not to joke about. When I got SA’d he was one of the first people to be there for me and help me through it, so I feel like I should show some leniency about this joke… its just that it hurt my feelings and now Im in a bad mood whenever I think abt msging him

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19w

Yeah ik he will apologize and ask for forgiveness, but my mindset is that: for him to default to making a joke like that following the conversation we were having is a HUGE turn off from our friendship. Like it changes my perspective of him and now idk if he can fix it- because if hes capable of making a joke like that then what else is he not saying around me…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19w

no fr. he proved that he's immature and emotionally stunted to think something like that is ok. ur 100% valid in not wanting him around

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19w

it's 100% valid to have certain topics u don't tolerate jokes about, this one just happens to be one that should never need to be pointed out

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