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Girl Talk 23h
i like this guy i’ve been on 3 dates w him but we are not yet exclusive. BUT. i matched w a guy on hinge who i used to have a fat crush on bc i went to this restaurant he was the bartender server. should i make plans w the 2nd guy anyways?
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nah respect the first one
yeah you & 1st guy aren’t exclusive
more context needed
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Anonymous 23h

You don’t owe the first one loyalty if you’re not exclusive yet, but be prepared for the possibility that he might be hurt if he isn’t also seeing other people

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Anonymous 22h

Yeah nothings exclusive and you are allowed to dabble

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Anonymous 22h

3 dates is nowhere near exclusive. ur well within ur rights to continue dating, and it'll probably help u not get overly attached too soon before realizing which u actually like more

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Anonymous 19h

ok so a little more context i fear may be needed: man 1: 3 dates across about a 2wk span, played video games online 2-3x tg, text pretty much daily but not constant at all, I have fun with him and like him ofc! man 2: bartender/server i met while he was working, he’s SOO nice and has such a good personality (always left fat tips), don’t know him much otherwise but he’s definitely a sweetie

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Anonymous 16h

Yes please date properly before committing to any of them

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Anonymous 22h

you’re single so

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Anonymous 14h

Keep us posted 🙏

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Anonymous 21h

Just because you’re “allowed” to do something shitty doesn’t mean you should. This is seriously horrible

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Anonymous 23h

don’t be a whore

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 21h

girl there's absolutely nothing wrong with still getting to knw other ppl when still going on dates w someone. if u haven't defined a relationship, there's nothing horrible happening

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 21h

That’s not the problem and you know it

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 20h

Please explain the problem then

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

i just can’t decide whether or not i should make plans w man 2 bc i’m actively seeing/talking to man 1, but i kinda like both!! i just don’t want to sleep around ofc. and if i slept with man 1 (probably gonna soon!!) i would probably stop talking to man 2 and i don’t wanna be like that yknow? so im very conflicted

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

on the bright side I’ve had a crush on an old coworker for YEARS since i quit that job nd haven’t thought about him lately so that’s crazyyy im thinkin ab him now unfortunately

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

this is what I’m mostly worried about honestly, because like what if he isn’t seeing other people ? i think i should ask maybe the next time we talk but idk how i even ask that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

If you’re worried about losing the first guy I would definitely bring it up with him before you go out with the second guy. You’re definitely not in the wrong to go out with guy 2, but it could hurt the first guys feelings like #2 said.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

the dates are just gaming😭 girl date the other man too esp if hes giving more

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

I read the context you gave in another comment and yeah, I’d hardly consider playing video games online together to be first dates tbh, I’d say you’re good to go with the other guy

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 17h

Nooo like aside from the dates lmfaoo 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

Yeah no the video games weren’t the dates!! We went out 3 times and did different things lol, then in the span of like 2wks we have alsooo played video games online maybe 2-3 times lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

well regardless no issue on talking to 2 ppl at once if ur not exclusive

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16h

This is what dating is lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

Seconding this. Technically you wouldn’t be in the wrong, but if I were him it’d still sting a little bit. Just be prepared for it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

Ohhh lol that makes more sense, regardless you wouldn’t be doing anything wrong if you went on a date with the other guy even if the first guy potentially might not like it

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