Anonymous #4 21h

heavy on this!! i’m Nigerian and they genuinely make fun of ppl for being on the skinnier side. but then also make fun of you if you start gaining weight 😭

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Anonymous #4 20h

Yes!! I’m also from an African community where the standard for our tribe is usually to be thicker. I got singled out for it all the time, and people thought my mom was starving me too! People also perceived me as “whitewashed” because of it, which literally makes zero sense? It’s only when I got older when people started viewing my thinness as “attractive,” but even that was because of a perceived adjacency to whiteness. Yeah, I said fuck that lmao.

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Anonymous #5 20h

YES, I was recalling this book when I made this post!! Double recommend!!

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Anonymous #3 20h

As another skinny girlie, there was a little social shift throughout the 2010s, but that hasn’t necessarily undone the centuries of conditioning done to women. You can still very easily find women and spaces grappling with EDs and insecurities around weight (literally scroll through this community for one minute). There has been an almost whiplashing return back to the “thin is in” narrative recently and this will continue to happen if we don’t thoroughly acknowledge its origins!

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Anonymous #2 20h

that part!

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Anonymous OP 20h

Yeah I understand that. I just think there is a difference between thin and skinny. Like no you don’t want to look like a skeleton like me… but oh you want to just not have excess fat on your body thin. So I think people need to distinguish what type of thin they are referring too

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Anonymous #3 20h

Yeah there is definitely a difference that’s worth distinguishing, but unfortunately a lot of people really do want to be skeletons like us😭 (or at least think they do). The main point of this post was for people to think critically about where their motivations lie

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Anonymous #9 20h

My nickname in hs was literally “paper” because I’m skinny and flat. And ofc it was given to my by boys, like if I’m not ur type, that’s amazing for me, but why degrade me?🧐

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Anonymous #5 19h

Doubling down on engaging with this comment because people thinking only as far back as the 90s/2000s are missing the point.

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Anonymous #11 19h

And her saying that just make me feel bad about being concerned for my health. I understand it’s hard for her to lose weight but she still needs to consider smaller people have body issues too

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Anonymous #12 19h

*jayda

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Anonymous #2 19h

my name was a “twig” or “slenderman”

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Anonymous #12 19h

Check out the book #5 recommended!

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Anonymous #11 19h

I love my body. I know I am beautiful and healthy but sometimes I just feel *too* skinny. But then sometimes I don’t feel skinny enough it’s really a battle and I wish more people would understand that

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Anonymous #2 19h

YES! I get so sad when my friends compare their bodies to mine. It makes me feel so guilty but also makes me feel sad for them that they can’t see their beauty

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Anonymous #13 18h

Woah

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Anonymous #2 18h

Fr I was always made fun of growing up for being skinny nd both boys and girls would poke fun at me for not having an ass or titties

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Anonymous #11 18h

right?? like wow

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Anonymous #2 18h

We are on a rock floating through the middle of space who gives a shit about any 1's opinion

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Anonymous #16 17h

It’s not your literal size that’s based in racism, it’s the metrics used to evaluate whether a size is “healthy” or “desirable” that have racist origins. Check out the book #5 recommended! It explains the origins more thoroughly than I ever could on a Yikyak post lol

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Anonymous #10 17h

People don’t have to be perfectly healthy to be deserving of human kindness

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Anonymous #18 17h

when did i say otherwise like okay savior

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Anonymous #14 16h

literally omg

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Anonymous #2 16h

i literally get told i look anorexic and that shit fucking HURTS

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Anonymous #10 16h

being fat isn’t necessarily unhealthy, and saying so only reinforces fatphobia. people have different genetic dispositions, and most dietitians/PTs say that sweeping generalizations like “fat = unhealthy” do more harm than good when trying to figure out routines that’d actually improve somebody’s health

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Anonymous #21 15h

i don’t believe it’ll be this way forever. countless cultures view/have viewed fat on women as more attractive, and even europeans romanticized fat women for centuries prior to ‘Enlightenment.’ the idea that skinny is attractive is based in wanting to enforce control on gender, race, and class. whether we want to keep viewing each other that way is up to us!

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Anonymous OP 14h

everyone can be healthy at a different size due to proportions and such but being overweight is unhealthy that not fatphobic it’s just a fact. agree with 10 that doesn’t mean fat people are less deserving in any way but just like someone who smokes is unhealthy, someone who is very fat is also unhealthy

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Anonymous #22 14h

Google Johann Blumenbach and Christoph Meiners

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Anonymous #23 14h

Actually no, they’d be called eugenicists or even Nazis

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Anonymous #24 14h

being significantly overweight or obese is unhealthy of course, but that and simply “being fat is unhealthy" are two different sentences which say completely different things. being fat CAN be unhealthy at a point, but isn't *necessarily* poor health in itself. ik many people fatter than me who are also much healthier than me

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Anonymous #23 14h

🙌🏼

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Anonymous OP 12h

Being fat is unhealthy, overweight is fat, fat by standards today is not truly fat, I’m a guy so idk why I’m getting girl talk but I like chubby girls, I’ve been fat, I’ve been skinny, now I’m medium, I know the sides of both I consider fat to be overweight, now I will say the stigma surrounding the definition of fat is not Good at all as a lot of people who are at modt chubby are considered fat and that’s not true, they are healthy not fat

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Anonymous #25 12h

“Actchually” 🤓. Silence, leftism breeds oppression and tyranny

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Anonymous OP 12h

There are some rare exceptions, but being fat is almost always being unhealthy. Fat phobia is just a term made up to avoid people being offended because they are fat

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Anonymous #6 11h

SAMEE

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Anonymous #28 11h

The term has perhaps been bastardized, but it’s not made up. I might come off as annoying about the semantics, but I encourage you to check out the book that #5 mentioned to understand why I’m stressing this distinction! It does more justice than I could as a random person in a comment section

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Anonymous #27 10h

I don't think we're disagreeing with each other. People often call another person fat when they're simply bigger but still healthy. There are also many chubby people who choose to call themselves fat simply because they have fat on their body, not as a pejorative. The bar for what's "fat" is then arbitrary, to where saying overweight or obese would actually be referring to a state of poor health as opposed to simply "fat." ykwim?

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Anonymous #27 10h

also respectfully you’re a man in a women’s space in a discussion about women’s beauty standards🫩 scram

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Anonymous OP 10h

Sir yes maam

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Anonymous OP 10h

Yeah i agree there’s always nuance to that i think the fat is unhealthy statement you’re saying is over simplifying the point, everyone has some amount of body fat no matter what they look like but it’s when someone gets to be very overweight/obese is where it is affecting their health

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Anonymous #29 10h

oops forgot about that one lmao

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Anonymous #23 10h

ohh brotherrr

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Anonymous #24 10h

yeah, with all that said i can’t sit here and say *too* much fat is good for anyone, and too much definitely exists. heart disease isn’t the #1 cause of death in this country for no reason lol

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Anonymous str0nza69 9h

its historically proven to be tuberculosis

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Anonymous #25 9h

“Google these two Jews” no thanks bud

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Anonymous OP 9h

Are there actual fatphobic things, yeah probably, but the actual cases of things being made specifically annoying to fat people is pretty low. There are many things that are designed for normal sized people, and it may be worse for a fat person. But overall, being fat is a choice 99% of the time. if things are fatphobic it is up to the fat person to get smaller, not society to conform to their large size

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Anonymous #28 8h

this and people saying the BMI scale isn’t accurate. 99% of people are regular in proportion and can use the BMI as a rough estimate to determine if they are overweight/healthy. unless you are 3 feet tall or a body builder with a ton of lean muscle, it will give you an accurate estimate. people in the US today are just on average so huge that what is considered overweight is becoming more and more skewed to make people feel better about themselves

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Anonymous #24 8h

The BMI scale is based on men’s bodies too so its actually harder for women to be considered obese. If a woman is obese in the BMI scale than she is fat fat

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Anonymous #28 8h

but this is where the question comes, what exactly is a “normal sized” person? a “too fat” body could just be a regular black/brown body. my cousins are healthy and normal sized for our ethnic group, but our ethnic group is naturally more curvaceous. bc of that, they still struggle to find clothes that fit them. them being smaller would require developing disordered eating habits. you see the problem?

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Anonymous OP 7h

Do you know what “lmao” stands for?

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Anonymous #34 7h

brother of a Chinese hacker named lmfao

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Anonymous OP 7h

fat today was obese 20 years ago. if ur overweight, you are unhealthy that’s how it is. you can deny it all you want but the truth remains the truth. if that’s how you want to live fine but don’t go around being salty about it. your body, your choice

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Anonymous #2 3h

Like genuinely. I fucking hate being skinny, people think it’s so perfect and body goals or wtv, like maybe in the 90s but not anymore. I want some weight in my thighs, to stop being told I’m too skinny and tall for someone, so many things. I try to put on weight but nothing works, I’m just stuck like this

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Anonymous OP 9m

that’s why the BMI is a range and not a specific hard number, it’s still going to give you a decent estimate, being able to find clothes that fit you properly has nothing to do with BMI. i struggle to find clothes that fit my properly and based on my weight alone you would say i’m too skinny but to my proportions i am a healthy size

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