Girl Talk on Sidechat | You’re right bout it one thing, this 𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘴 an unpopular opinion. Mostly because it’s completely fucking insane. Whatever your views are of men in general, saying they shouldn’t speak up about being assaulted/raped is 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘨𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨.

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Girl Talk 12w

You’re right bout it one thing, this 𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘴 an unpopular opinion. Mostly because it’s completely fucking insane. Whatever your views are of men in general, saying they shouldn’t speak up about being assaulted/raped is 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘨𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨.

141 upvotes, 12 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Girl Talk. "You’re right bout it one thing, this 𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘴 an unpopular opinion. Mostly because it’s completely fucking insane.

Whatever your views are of men in general, saying they shouldn’t speak up about being assaulted/raped is 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘨𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨."

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Anonymous 12w

I would have just replied but they deleted it before I could. Or, hopefully, it was deleted by the community mods.

Anonymous 12w

it feels gross because it’s based in the idea that men are inherently aggressors and women are inherently victims, which is a misogynistic & reductive viewpoint dressed in falsely feminist clothing.

Anonymous 12w

That’s so gross. If you’re a victim, you’re a victim. No matter the sex or gender.

Anonymous 12w

Wait a minute tho- she never said men shouldn’t speak up. She said when they do, it’s typically used in an attempt to silence women, which is kind of true. I don’t think she was invalidating male assault, let’s not reach that far.

Anonymous 12w

That was actually a very disgusting take.

Anonymous

OP 12w

What makes it worse is that I know some people who think like this from one of my classes last term, and they’re the same people who claim they stand with all survivors. As someone pointed out when I saw the original post, there’s still a stigma about men speaking out against it since it can be perceived as weakness. Posts the original one shown here only make this it.

Anonymous

#1 12w

Make this worse*

Anonymous

#2 12w

I’m a trans woman and before I came out, people (including my irl friends) were VERY weird to me about my SA (by a woman) when I told them. even when I came out as asexual, they were still weird about it and acted like I only said I was ace to justify my SA “claims”. once I transitioned, went to college, & shared what happened to my friends there, they acted completely different & were much more protective & supportive. it’s absurd that my SA was only believable once people saw me as a woman.

Anonymous

#4 12w

i reread it and i agree. i think she’s saying it’s bad when it’s used to deter the conversation from acknowledging women victims in that context. BUT i think it’s 100% wrong and gross to tell anyone that they should not speak up about sa, because that in itself takes a lot of courage to even admit

Anonymous

#5 12w

Right, yes of course. But I don’t think she the 1st poster was saying that at all.

Anonymous

OP 12w

Neither, it was nuked bc it hit -25

Anonymous

#4 12w

i agree but people interpreted it that way probably bc of the wording, but then again idk what the comments were saying so there’s a lack of context for me