Anonymous #1 25w

It doesn’t it’s a way for dudes to be lazy

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Anonymous OP 25w

that’s probably often the case. I’ve noticed among my guy friends that try to interrogate their own ingrained toxic masculinity, there’s a certain aversion to approaching a woman out-of-the-blue in public because it feels, to them, an inherently patriarchal act. Or, if nothing else, is liable to intimidate/scare some women on account of the clear risks we face by giving a strange man a chance. I can kind of understand from where they’re coming. ig I appreciate that more than the inverse.

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Anonymous #2 25w

Yeah we can tell. It’s a bit frustrating bc from the woman side we do more than men /need more rest so it makes sense for men to step up to the plate

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Anonymous OP 25w

well yeah, I’m not making some “boohoo men have it so tough” argument. “😰😰who will think about the men⁉️” I just don’t how to signal to those men when I’m interested/open to hooking up without initiating in some regard. I would certainly prefer to fuck someone that’s at least a little concerned with the extent to which I feel safe, but also some effort from the other side is nice.

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Anonymous #2 25w

Yeah it’s hard bc if I’m alone chilling I might be interested but I haven’t talked to them yet. I think sometimes ou need to take a chance

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