Girl Talk on Sidechat | I hate when people say “if you’d like” or “if you want to come” That doesn’t make people feel welcomed. I encourage more of you to say “we’d love you to come” “please come if you’re around”

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Girl Talk 1w

I hate when people say “if you’d like” or “if you want to come” That doesn’t make people feel welcomed. I encourage more of you to say “we’d love you to come” “please come if you’re around”

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Anonymous 1w

men never get it. they always say “ if u want “ or “ sure” like just say u hate me😭

Anonymous 1w

my bad for not wanting to pressure people

Anonymous 1w

Is “would you like to come with us” bad 😭 sometimes I don’t know how else to put it but I add “we would love to have you” after

Anonymous

#1 1w

Like ik it’s just semantics, but words have meaning. Words have intention :(

Anonymous

#2 1w

So here’s the thing, saying “Oh come if you’d like” or “come if you want” Puts the social burden on the person being “invited.” It’s perceived as a “pity invite.” It makes the person feel like their presence could potentially be a burden. It’s not welcoming language. That’s why I suggested something like “we’d love to see you” instead

Anonymous

OP 1w

I see it the other way, saying “if you like” let’s me know I’m welcome but that it’s still optional, “we’d love to see you” to me says that they will be upset to not see me, so I have to go and it’s just a polite way of saying “show up”

Anonymous

#3 1w

Quickest way to get a talking to from me is “sure”

Anonymous

#3 1w

Well I think that’s pretty specific to “we’d love to see you” but saying something like “please come if you’re around” is definitely better than “come if you want” or “come if you’d like” “If you’d like” is putting the person in an awkward position. Like yeah *I* would like to come, but do you *actually* want me to come or is it a pity invite

Anonymous

#5 1w

that’s the perfect way to ask😭

Anonymous

#5 1w

That’s excellent!