Anonymous #1 6d

cause he’s autistic and can’t live on his own. older sister responsibilities!

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Anonymous #1 6d

And if hope they wouldn’t expect you to take care of him when you move in with your partner bc that’s so odd

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Anonymous #1 6d

oh trust they do. i’ve been told since i was 5 to get a house big enough for him and any potential kids of mine to have their own room

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Anonymous OP 6d

I understand that while you live there but he is their kid too you need freedom and shouldn’t be expected to take him with you when you move out

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Anonymous OP 6d

Thats crazy that they won’t take care of him but expect you to even when you have your own kids but they won’t take care of theirs crazy

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Anonymous #1 6d

they won’t parent him after i move out cause that’s when they’re gonna divorce (FINALLY) and live in separate homes and they “don’t want him to deal with the divorce fallout”

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Anonymous OP 6d

They can still take care of him after a divorce plenty of parents parent autistic kids after a divorce no offense but they seem like bad parents making you always take care of him they need to step up and act like parents

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Anonymous #1 6d

no offense taken, i’ve been thinking the exact same thing since i was a child

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Anonymous OP 6d

Is there anything legally naming you his guardian? Is it listed in their will? It also sounds like your parents decided to essentially dump your brother on you without even trying to consider alternative options. Not saying you don’t love him or anything just the vibe I’m getting

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Anonymous OP 6d

You’re a kid you should not be expected to take care of him when they won’t. You need to but you’re foot down you can love him and help take care of him but he does not need to live with you for the rest of your life. You are young they are adults they need to adult figure out someway to work around the divorce and take care of him and let you have freedom I’m sure you’ve never had

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 6d

yup i have guardianship over him

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Anonymous #1 6d

idk how to though especially after saying i’d take care of him for all these years

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Anonymous OP 6d

You can still help and take care of him while you live there and help when they need it after but they should not hold something you said as a kid to be like something for real. You love him so ofc you want to take care of him but forcing you to take care of him is not something they should do

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Anonymous OP 6d

You’ve been told you were to take care of him since you were 5 you can’t make a legally binding contract at 5.

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Anonymous #1 6d

it just sucks cause i don’t want to let anyone down and be the disappointment of the family

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Anonymous OP 6d

You won’t be a disappointment your parents are disappointments for pawning off their responsibilities of taking care of your brother onto you

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Anonymous #1 6d

Exactly they decided to throw responsibility on a five year old instead of actually making a plan.

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