Girl Talk on Sidechat | Unpopular take: the first step of dismantling the patriarchy is to quit indoctrinating our kids into gender/ gender stereotypes. Gender doesn’t matter until dating anyway. Rxpe culture is a lot harder to learn if gender stereotypes aren’t taught!!

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Girl Talk 7w

Unpopular take: the first step of dismantling the patriarchy is to quit indoctrinating our kids into gender/ gender stereotypes. Gender doesn’t matter until dating anyway. Rxpe culture is a lot harder to learn if gender stereotypes aren’t taught!!

Anonymous 7w

Gender reveals at baby showers genuinely disgust me. It DOESNT MATTER. The kid hopefully won’t be sexually active until they are of age and won’t even feel sexual until they hit puberty…

Anonymous 7w

reactive parenting includes this and frankly should be more widely disseminated… parent based on the kid and their needs, and when they come home and say “but wearing pink is gay!” you talk with them and reason through why that’s wrong. people think theyve failed at parenting just because they’re kid says smth bigoted. no girl, your job starts here.

Anonymous 7w

I mean I don’t think it’s right to demonize gender reveals, I think more often than not it’s used as a fun way of feeling more connected to your child and being able to share that joy with the rest of the family is beautiful. Gender reveals and how people treat their children and push ideas of gender roles have nothing to do with eachother.

Anonymous

#1 7w

very passionate abt this topic so apologies if I’m slightly off-topic. just very frustrated with how “raising gender neutral” often means things like no skirts but pants are ok (and other things that take masculine as the norm). parents need to be careful that they’re not enforcing an alternate gender norm through “gender neutral” parenting

Anonymous

OP 7w

i was JUST talking about how i hate gender reveals, or at least that term. you can’t reveal someone’s gender before they’re even born bc gender is a social construct. you can’t reveal someone’s reveal the SEX of the baby but not the GENDER.

Anonymous

#1 7w

Kids just need to be able to choose what they feel most comfortable and this is not off topic. I wish we’d just stop talking about gender in front of kids who DONT NEED TO KNOW OR CARE ABOUT SEX. The sexualization of kids is just there to help the patriarchy continue and even feminist/progressive parents fall RIGHT INTO THIS TRAP

Anonymous

#2 7w

just realized in the last sentence i said can’t instead of can, but i think you guys know what i mean lol

Anonymous

#2 7w

Just a bunch of feminists tryna change the world :) If I get what you are saying I won’t get you on grammar or whatever. That’s what men do anyway…

Anonymous

#3 7w

I do. There are so many other ways to celebrate life that don’t put your UNBORN FUTURE CHILD INTO A BOX

Anonymous

#3 7w

you can celebrate having a baby without telling all your family members what genitals your unborn baby has 😐and if you don’t think that’s what it is, then you’re assuming the gender of your child before you even got to know them.

Anonymous

#1 7w

garnering a false sense of connection is unhealthy for both you & the child since you’re just pushing expectations on someone who doesn’t even exist yet… celebrate the wonderful possibilities of this new person instead of making up who they’ll be.

Anonymous

#1 7w

This goes into another big rant I have about kids. Celebrate the POSSIBILITIES of who that child MAY BECOME. You are not entitled to dictate WHO that child will be and that child does not OWE YOU ANYTHING. You chose to have kids. They did not choose to live. Treat them as an autonomous being, clearly destinct from you or your desires!

Anonymous

OP 7w

Okay yall have a good day I’m blocking you

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