Anonymous #1 4w

In this case material things do matter rn tho bc the biggest things she’s saying is he never listens to her or isn’t there for her. He built the house himself exactly how she wanted, knows she loves sapphires so he got her real sapphire earrings for Christmas. I agree material things aren’t what’s important but here it shows that he does listen. She’s not miserable. Basically my dad is republican and voted for Trump in 16 but not this past election and my dad is an old dog learning new tricks.

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Anonymous OP 4w

it's not anyone's business but ur mom and dad to decide when a relationship isn't good for them anymore. everyone grows and changes in life, and it might not always be together.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Mmm, maybe I jumped the gun. Obviously I don’t know the situation as well as you do. I’m just surprised she didn’t break the news herself, since she’s the one leaving. She could’ve at least given you and your siblings that.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Agreed. There are always deeper things going on that only the couple knows about. I know a lot of happy people who were miserable behind closed doors. Myself included. My dad would buy me all these nice things, even my dream daily car, and then when I didn’t do things how he wanted me to he’d use those gifts as leverage to financially abuse me. This is a tricky situation no matter the angle.

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Anonymous #1 4w

definitely tricky, all that can be done is to support their decision and help them heal separately ig. u can't force someone to choose to stay if it's not what they want no matter the reason

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Anonymous OP 4w

Like he grew up very republican southern Baptist family. Like homophobic everything. But this year I came out to him and now him and my gf drink beers together and hang out. He is overcoming literally everything but that’s not enough for her. She has fallen into this rabbit hole of politics 24/7 and basically blames my dad for everything going on in the world and blames all of us too. So no it’s not just between them bc of everything going on her deciding to go forward with a divorce would

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Anonymous OP 4w

Result in my siblings and I having no contact with her. She constantly needs pity and is always the victim like this is an ongoing issue that doesn’t just affect them ya know what I mean?

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But it’s not valid. I’m not going to air everything that’s going on in my family but my mother needs therapy. This isn’t a valid thing and she is quite actively ruining all of our lives by everything she is doing. She’s been like this for years and it’s finally come to a head and it’s at its worst rn

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Anonymous OP 4w

that is definitely tough. i hope u can be there for ur dad to let him knw he's not the evil man ur moms painting him to be. and hopefully ur mom gets the help she needs someday to workout whats going on with her mentally, sounds tough to be around her

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Anonymous #2 4w

It is. And I feel so bad for him because he said “I’m sorry I don’t know why I brought that up. I just don’t want you guys to be mad at me if it happens” and I’m just broken. I promised him I wouldn’t talk to her about it bc he doesn’t want her to yell at me but my sisters and I are coordinating a conversation with her. I just really hope she doesn’t actually leave on Saturday bc there will be no coming back from that and I don’t want to go no contact with my mom

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Anonymous OP 4w

best of luck with that situation. i hope she can get the help she needs and if not i hope u, ur siblings and ur dad can continue to be there for eachother in this fucked up time

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Anonymous #1 4w

This is exactly how my mom is with me. But besides like how she behaves towards me she tells anyone and everyone how amazing of a man my dad is and like he is! And they’ve been going on dates like all of this is because she’s not ok not that their relationship isn’t ya know what I mean?

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