Girl Talk on Sidechat | my issue with how people talk about adoption (as an adoptee) is how parent focused people are about it. “if you can’t have kids just adopt” is parent focused. “plenty of kids need homes” (like we’re shelter animals & people want a pet) is parent focused.

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Girl Talk 17h

my issue with how people talk about adoption (as an adoptee) is how parent focused people are about it. “if you can’t have kids just adopt” is parent focused. “plenty of kids need homes” (like we’re shelter animals & people want a pet) is parent focused.

Anonymous 17h

like when people criticize the system people say “well what about people who can’t have children” as though it was a system created for them? it’s not. it’s FOR the children. if children didn’t need placement there would not BE adoption as an option for infertile parents. and hot take: you are not entitled to someone else’s child. so i don’t know why criticism of for profit adoption is constantly shot down as being bad for infertile people… WHEN THAT’S NOT WHO ADOPTION IS FOR.

Anonymous

OP 17h

unfortunately, for-profit adoption has shifted the narrative, made the children a product, and couples the consumers. so they do believe adoption is all about their wants & needs. even when most studies show the harm caused. okay i’m done i just needed to vent fr.

Anonymous

OP 17h

to add on, no one is entitled to any children even their own! adoption is a flawed system

Anonymous

#1 17h

i agree, people really do act like they have a right to have children, and as much as i truly sympathize for people who struggle with infertility, i don’t think children are a right. and this is also why i’m vehemently pro-choice because i don’t want babies to be born quite literally just be pawned off. it’s quadsi-human trafficking and the more people are aware of it the better i’ll feel.

Anonymous

OP 17h

i agree with everything you’ve said op. also there was a huge human trafficking ring that sold babies and said they were “adopted.” i believe it was in east asia.