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22 going on a date tomorrow with a guy who’s 28. he’s been great so far but i worry that, if it does go anywhere, that it won’t be great long term :(
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Anonymous 7w

Cus of the age? I personally think 6 years isn’t bad but you’ll just have to feel it out on the date. Good luck queen!

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Anonymous 7w

It’s good you’re being cautious and aware of it! It’s definitely a difference as your brain still won’t be fully developed for 3 years and his has already been fully developed for 3 years, but it’s not too bad where I’m super concerned about predatory behavior yet (saying this while not know any of his actions)

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Anonymous 7w

I think 6 years is fine…10 is sketchy. IMO.

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Anonymous 7w

it may only be 6 years but that’s still a pretty drastic difference in life stages. 22 is like fresh out of college and 28 is close to thirty and in a completely different stage if that makes sense. obvi do what’s best for you, but as someone who is also 22 i can’t imagine being with a 28 y/o

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Anonymous 7w

I’m 21 and my bf is 25 and we are slightly different about how we approach things and how we think but I don’t think it’s too much of a difference to mean anything imo. He and I are fairly close in life experiences (I got my first ft job and he’s on his second one now that we’ve moved)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

it feels like it’ll go well at the moment. my worry isn’t necessarily the gap, it’s that i will have a harder time relating to someone who’s out of my cohort over time. i think it would be grating over time to be with someone who isn’t exactly on the same page as me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

yeah i’ll feel it out. we both go to the same school. i still have a ways to go because my degree pathway has been odd and he started late after working. we’ll see i guess

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