Anonymous #15 1w

I got into a really bad car crash, my second one at that, and I ended up having to be institutionalized. It fucked me up so bad

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Anonymous #7 1w

i’m so sorry :( i hope you’re doing better

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i’m sorry i mean no offense by this but what was the point of commenting that’s? 🙂

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Well that’s great, you do know a rear ending is not as bad as 99% of car accidents?

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Anonymous #12 1w

keep in mind, my rear end accident was so bad, the frame bent 😔

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Anonymous #15 1w

Average rear ending. Clearly we’re not talking about being numbed

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Anonymous #12 1w

bro i’m on your side, i’m just saying that rear ends can be bad. if not physically, then psychologically

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Anonymous #16 1w

Probably because you weren’t in it and thus in no real danger?? 😭 And if they came to tell you instead of fleeing, that sounds like a responsible driver who made a mistake. Any reasonable person would just take down their insurance info and go about their day, no reason to be angry. I’m sorry if I’m misunderstanding something I’m just so confused why you think it’s strange that you were calm in this situation, because that sounds like a perfectly normal reaction.

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Anonymous #16 1w

Sue & call ur insurance

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Anonymous #25 1w

It’s a natural body reaction when your hormones (adrenaline) increase and decrease rapidly. Stfu you fucking weirdo

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Anonymous #12 1w

it is. now imagine counting 1 Mississippi…2 Mississippi… and doing that 28 more times. it’s no longer a natural reaction

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Anonymous #25 1w

thirty seconds is not as long as you think, especially when you’re in a near death situation, or something your body perceives as near death, or terrified or in pain. when you have that much adrenaline you’re literally unaware of your body sometimes.

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Anonymous #24 1w

because he was literally speeding and being a fuck ass coming into our lot and my car was literally out of the way and no reason for it to be hit other than him driving like a dumbass.

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Anonymous #6 1w

you can preach all day. it’s a subjective topic so I can say the same in reverse. most people are able to regulate emotions, especially after long periods of time like 30 seconds, so given the number of videos with people screaming for that long, we can assume most people are being over exaggerative. get some screams out and then let people who aren’t panicking focus so that the situation doesn’t worsen.

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Anonymous #25 1w

Biologically incorrect.

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Anonymous #12 1w

cite it then

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Anonymous #23 1w

if there was any significant damage that couldn’t be fixed my simple means i would have absolutely, funny enough his car got absolutely wrecked, but mine didn’t

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congratulations

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Anonymous #25 1w

you made your claims first, cite those.

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Anonymous #6 1w

i didn’t say she was wrong. she said i was “biologically incorrect” therefore, the burden of proof goes to her

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Anonymous #25 1w

you claimed most people can regulate their emotions within 30 seconds of a traumatic event, you don’t have any source for that?

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Anonymous #6 1w

then my point in my first response to her is fucking valid again, isn’t it? this is all subjective, he-said, she-said bullshit because no one is going to know shit. i don’t and they don’t. i just gave my opinion that maybe you should be able to get a grip so you don’t cost someone their life in an already stressful situation

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Anonymous #8 1w

I could be wrong, but I *think* OP might be talking about men who comment on videos where women are sharing the aftermath of a car accident. Specifically, the type of guys who say things like, “Wow, props for not crying like all those other women.” Which is awful - because they’re both putting down an entire gender to lift one woman up and shaming anyone who cries after going through a violent accident. Which is a super valid and normal thing for anyone to do, which makes it more weird. 😭

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Anonymous #12 1w

How? Rear endings account for nearly 8% of all fatal car crashes while head on collisions around 10% and sideswipes at only 3%. So how did you get them not being as bad as 99% of crashes? Tell that to the 2000 people who die every year to being rear ended.

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Anonymous #30 1w

oh my baby i’m so sorry

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Anonymous #16 1w

ugh don’t let #24 act like they know you. ofc idk what you went thru whatsoever bc that’s actually fucking awful & terrifying. i’m so hoping all of u in the car & in the other car are okay. but to act like it’s this chill situation too🙄 (not you ofc!! other comments i read.) like dude i didnt

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Anonymous #17 1w

like sex, resources, food, clothes, whatever idc, women who have prostituted herself in turn of hoping to help her loved ones imo doesn’t deserve any critique when she could have quite literally laid down & done nothing & let those kids go hungry and/or abused. i can tell this woman is the right mother for my siblings

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Anonymous #17 1w

i hope, if this woman is somehow reading this, you know i am so happy seeing my little sister be so precious and kind. ofc everyone has their mistakes, ik i’ve done wrong, but god please leave these two little girls alone. they are so sweet, wholesome, curious for new knowledge. leave them alone. let them learn. please

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Anonymous #4 1w

“girl just stay at home and comfy with me.” tbf, idk rlly what she said, but something like that lollls. but it makes me think abt how many ppl

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this happened in 23’ it’s just a scar n some nerve damage now lol

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Anonymous #17 1w

are losing out on memories, even if some of the last ones, on a person EVERYONE cares about baby! we need this! i ell technically ig not,,,,but it rlly does help pull everything together lols

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Anonymous #30 1w

all in all, rest girl. fuck get five sweet treats idek. but overall rest, because that looks actually genuinely so nervewracking, and you’re not a robot. don’t make yourself feel like you have to perform so unrealistically for the pleasure of other people

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actually technically not true lol. i 99% don’t scream with anything. but when i do i know it’s when im exhausted. no matter how hard i try to hold it in im breaking down again and screaming my head off from the pain & what i’ve dealt with from society. i’m sorry you haven’t experienced something that is genuinely so out of control it’s scary lol

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Anonymous #25 1w

you can’t 100% know what someone is going thru btw. like literally i’ve had ppl acted so surprised bc they didn’t expect me to be neurodivergent, yet it impacts me in so many drastic ways in public. my mom’s friends never expected her to be ND too…and i even didn’t expect it before i went thru my journey to get evaluated. this isn’t to day adhd or autistic people do this or that. but to show that some of us genuinely have a hard time communicating,

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Anonymous #17 1w

or feeling comfy in public. i’ve been hospitalized many times as a kid because my immune system is weak, but i am not very good at noticing something is genuinely wrong.

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Anonymous #17 1w

i still have health issues for this very specific reason, but i’m in a mood & i’m telling my sister to not put up with it. bc i see this girl as another, ofc diff, but

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Anonymous #17 1w

for some reason Tay and I are very similar. that is why i always reach out about being here for her, possible ways to get accommodations (if needed), just being here in general. i had bad experiences with my freshman roommate. that was at OU, i cannot say what OSU is like whatsoever, but i will look in (if okay) with reason of my history context of this specific situation because young girls, women, are dying NOW and i think i may be able to get it: with all of us

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Anonymous #30 1w

i’m very sorry. don’t get me wrong i absolutely understand the reaction. i literally joke about how i was present in an active shooting situation hahah. not in a bad way lol. but i hope your doing okay along with your loved ones

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nothing technically is forcing me to scream? idk? but some individuals have had extreme reactions in situations where even they were like wtf i can’t control this. of course it is never ever an excuse to hurt people. but to act like people screaming are going out of their way to do so, esp towards you lol. i get it, but idk ive been told what you said because i simply have genuinely no full control of the volume of my voice, so ive been called childish/immature/unprofessional all because of

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Anonymous #17 1w

things even they actively know i’m trying to seek help for. idk if you’ve felt this in some way as an adhd individual, but i 100% feel so scared & possibly left out from my whole grad department all because of that aspect of possible negative reaction. i need to, and maybe you, ofc i cannot say, may need to find deeper ways to relax ourselves. don’t beat yourself up if self care videos or tips don’t work. they don’t for me. i literally chuck myself outta bed to be able to move bc

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Anonymous #17 1w

of my adhd. i nonstop wear eyeglasses that are dark pink/red, but still show my actual eyes, no matter what other thinks. not bc i think im some special person, but bc i’m tryna get thru my day w/o a public meltdown from added overstimulation.

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Anonymous #25 1w

it is a natural reaction for me btw. i already have slow processing times, so if i take a bit longer to react to a scary situation doesn’t mean its any less scary. i genuinely think i screamed like almost a minute after something heavily dropped during a halloween haunted house🤣 it’s just genuinely not as simple as you think. when ppl say everyone is different, they genuinely mean it. i can see the signs of adhd/autism in my lil sis now (i couldn’t rlly see what it was until pretty recent), but

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Anonymous #17 1w

it definitely hides itself, or at least masks very well, around others even those we are closest to. my sister is struggling more than i did my first year because hers i can tell is manifesting more severely when not including the rooms of our parents, their supervision, and the rules that comes with fixing our mental health. don’t do anything you don’t feel comfy with tay tay. if you do feel comfy and okay, then ofc do whatever you want to do!!! but i am in the basement rn, genuinely. the

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Anonymous #17 1w

people do not know how long. one girl is 16. im 22, why do i feel like this is not real? i know it is, i can tell this is what my life will be for rn. it just seems so dramatic and theater

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Anonymous #17 1w

pls don’t hurt me for that. i’m just saying in the way that i’ve at least read about other violent situations; it just never made sense to me to explain it out in detail before. like omg who cares now we all know you wanna get famous for his, bc ik someone who doesn’t want the fame wouldn’t rlly be so descriptive in their plan where any media can uncover btw😝

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Anonymous #17 1w

They said they weren’t in the car though? That’s why I’m confused as to why it’s relevant to this post 😭

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Anonymous #24 1w

because someone literally hit my car?! would you not absolutely freak if someone hit your car!? like a normal human being tf

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Anonymous #16 1w

I wouldn’t crash out over it at them, no?? 😭Like, yeah it would suck to have your car damaged but if they came to you of their own accord like you said, and you weren’t in the car, and thus not hurt, I’d say that’s the best possible scenario for a car wreck. Just take their insurance info, no need to “jump them” like your friends suggested. I had this exact thing happen and they didn’t come forward, so I had to pay everything out of pocket.

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Anonymous #24 1w

i’d still be mad as hell if someone hit my car like that. best case scenario, i’m without my car for however long it takes to fix, meaning i can’t get to school/work/etc. and have to take ubers or hope someone is willing to drive me around. that means i’m losing time, money, or both because of something 100% not my fault and 100% preventable. worst case scenario, the car is totaled or i’m on the hook for the damages. huge financial burden. plenty of reason to crash out

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Anonymous #25 1w

okay good for you? you seem upset. maybe you’d be happier if you had some empathy :)

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Anonymous #6 1w

sympathy you mean ;)

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Anonymous #6 1w

I get that completely, I guess what I’m trying to say is that I don’t understand treating staying calm in that scenario as an unusual reaction. If someone came to me of their own accord to admit their mistake and make things right, I would want to stay calm to get things settled with insurance and everything, rather than crashing out at them and potentially missing the opportunity to get that info in favor of an argument no matter how upset I may be.

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Anonymous #24 1w

But that’s just my perspective as someone who experienced the opposite in that scenario: someone not stepping forward and owning up to their mistake and costing me thousands in the end. I get being upset, I get crying, but to flip your lid at the person over an accident while they’re actively trying to make things right of their own doesn’t really solve anything

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Anonymous #24 1w

okay so i should put this in a different perspective for you. the guy was a total dickhead and had some more shit to everyone in that house so him apologizing didn’t exactly cut it after all the bullshit he had put us all through.

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Anonymous #16 1w

Ohhh I see, that makes complete sense then 😭 Sorry for the misunderstanding, I hope you got it figured out. I just remember when my car got hit wishing with everything I had that I could have gotten their information.

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