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Guys I need to know if I’m rightfully upset about something but my situation is kinda long so Ima put it in the comments
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Anonymous 3w

he's the problem

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Anonymous 3w

are u his mom? he's grown enough to figure out setting his own alarm and getting up and ready to leave when he needs to. Even IF he usually leaves the bathroom open for you in the morning, if he had his own alarm and noticed u weren't getting up by x-time he could've used his brain to figure out that he could get ready without worrying about u using the bathroom. To me, it sounds like he's looking for someone else to blame for his lack of planning 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous 3w

So today I randomly found that I had 1 day left of PTO at my job and I’ve been really overwhelmed so I last minute decided to take today off. I got up at like 7:30 to let my boss know and then went back to bed. My bf is a PhD researcher with no set “start time” at his work so he was still asleep and I didn’t wake him up/tell him bc I didn’t think he needed to know immediately.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

We both slept until about 10:30 and he gets up and suddenly starts mad dashing around trying to get out the door as soon as possible and asks me why I’m not logged in (I work remotely on Mondays and Fridays) and I told him about my PTO. Then he starts ranting about “this is not the day to be late” and “oh fucking shit” and then as he grabs his key and heads out the door he basically reprimands me about how “next time I need to tell him immediately when I decide to take the day off”.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

He explained that he needs me to tell him because “I make sure the bathroom is empty for you to use before I start getting ready for work so I don’t get up before you do”. Then he leaves and is clearly kinda pissy. But tbh I can’t see why he would be mad at me for this? If he knew he had something he had to be at campus for at a specific time I have no idea why he didn’t just set an alarm for a certain time to get up and get ready.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

As for the reason he gave it doesn’t make sense to me bc we have 2 bathrooms in our apartment and he knows I work from home on Fridays. I could access the bathroom at any point if I wanted to or he could just use the other bathroom. So now I’m sitting here pissed off and bothered by how he left bc it just feels to me like he got huffy about HIM being late and wanted to pin some blame on me??

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Anyways I guess I’m just wondering if anyone thinks I actually *am* wrong for not having said anything. I can understand him wanting me to communicate when I’ll be off for other reasons but idk what that has to do with him being late for his job and now I’m just waiting for him to come back because I feel like I need to tell him that he was being incredibly insensitive for that. This is also something he’s never really done before so I’m just really shocked at how out of the blue it was

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Anonymous replying to -> hooters 3w

THANK YOU I was so flabbergasted why he didn’t just set an alarm for himself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

and as u should be cause its not ur job to get him up and ready for school ✋💀he's a grown ass fucking man

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