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Girl Talk 13w
i love my boyfriend so much but he is just such a stick in the mud and i wish he worked on himself. he doesn’t want to do the things i like (like hobby wise) and he just says it’s because of his age (he’s 30). i feel a burden bringing him round places :(
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Anonymous 13w

He refuses to work on himself. He’s given up on looking for a job and he never leaves the house. I have always wanted a bf who shares the same enthusiasm as I do and he doesn’t. I’m scared he’ll commit suicide if i break up with him and I just feel so stuck. I love him but I’m frustrated so so so much i want him to be better but he refuses to even go to the doctor to address his health issues

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Anonymous 12w

i talked with him and he says he’s still looking for jobs but no one’s hiring right now. he didn’t realize the suicide jokes and stuff really bother me and apologized about it and said he is going to start working on himself when he gets health insurance but i just hope he commits

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Sometimes people will not change unless they hit rock bottom. You can’t make a person change, no matter how hard you try, but you can control your own actions. Leaving him may very well be the wake up call that he needs to improve himself.

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Anonymous 12w

Bc we met and have a lot in common and have good chemistry :( he says he’s rly lucky to have me and he’s just a very independent person

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12w

true

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Anonymous 12w

i love u sm ty

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Anonymous 12w

It also doesn’t help that we’re semi long distance and live in diff towns. We see each other on the occasional weekend

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

nothing is stopping him from changing now. he doesnt mean it. he will continue to move the goal posts and make up a new excuse to stay the same.

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