Girl Talk on Sidechat | Dear women, We need to stop being “nice” to everyone. Society asks us to be “nice” and smile because it puts us in a more vulnerable state, allowing us to be taken advantage of. Instead of loving everyone, love and be kind only to those who deserve it!!

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Girl Talk 2w

Dear women, We need to stop being “nice” to everyone. Society asks us to be “nice” and smile because it puts us in a more vulnerable state, allowing us to be taken advantage of. Instead of loving everyone, love and be kind only to those who deserve it!!

Anonymous 2w

I agree and hot take, but people who say “well men will kill you” ok anyone can kill you. I’m not the biggest fan of men but I know that most of them are semi reasonable and will usually leave you alone if you tell them no. they can also usually handle when you swear at them and stand your ground. stop living in fear of the common man. they are just boys

Anonymous 2w

I feel like you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t honestly. because the one day I decide not to smile at anybody is going to be the day a psycho killer I passed on the sidewalk gets personally offended and kills me but the day I smile at everyone, I’m gonna end up with a crazy obsessive stalker who thinks I want him.

Anonymous 2w

I’m not nice to anyone hope this helps

Anonymous 2w

no cause anytime im not fucking smiling someone comes up to talking about some "are u ok? u just look really sad.." IT IS EIGHT IN THE FUCKING MORNING, ITS COLD AS FUCK AND THIS IS A BUS STOP. WHY THE FUCK WOULD I LOOK HAPPY RIGHT NOW?

Anonymous 2w

I like the sentiment but some men will kill you if they sense any hostility. :/ I wish more women felt bold enough to even be a bitch back to creeps but I also 100% understand them not feeling safe enough to

Anonymous 2w

I just am nice bc it aligns w my faith. But I am known to have a huge RBF so I’m somehow doing both. I have a customer service voice for when I’m working and also a customer and everyone gets whiplash when I use it. I use it at restaurants and stuff bc the workers have had a long day and I rather give them a calm interaction when I can

Anonymous

_salami_ 2w

Yep and those men can be thrown into a meat grinder. Us girls need to work together to neutralize the threat of these predators however possible… Put them in jail, make them suffer etc. Everytime a man gets away with hurting a girl for not conforming to his standards is a win for him. This is exactly why we say fuck all men and avoid them!

Anonymous

#2 2w

THIS!

Anonymous

OP 2w

I wish guys would also step in and vouch for us here and also get hella pissed at these violent criminals

Anonymous

#2 2w

Move out of the US ngl. We are literally the worst when it comes to this. Or hey, 2nd amendment: keep a g*n with you. I hate that this is reality and we need to work together to change it😭😭

Anonymous

OP 2w

GUYS NEED TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE AS WELL! Protect women!!!!

Anonymous

OP 2w

I would literally never leave the US lol but I prob will carry a gun w me if I ever move to a big city by myself

Anonymous

OP 2w

Or at least have one in my apartment cus I am not about to be assaulted/killed in my own home that I pay for w my hard earned money. HELL NAH

Anonymous 2w

Thank you for sharing this. Women shouldn’t feel nervous to make a scene when a man is making her uncomfortable. Period.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Ok fine I’d probably move to Canada but I really don’t like the cold so idk

Anonymous

_salami_ 2w

Exactly. Predators are smart with who they pick, they pick the most vulnerable and kinda hence the post. The stronger and more confident a woman walks, the meaner she is, the more likely a predator will face consequences if he hurts her. It’s shitty that this country rewards predators instead of prosecutes them but at least knowing this can help girls stay safe.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Ngl even weaker men are more likely to get hurt… TL:DR, being universally nice is not a valued trait in America and will only make you more of a target for criminals and losers.

Anonymous

OP 2w

I have this mentality but I know some women are shy and don’t wanna be bothered and have bad anxiety about men. I never want them to feel like they deserve anything that happens to them ya know? I’m a big girl who’s taller and would be a problem to a man.

Anonymous

_salami_ 2w

I understand that and to a certain degree I feel it’s my job as well as the job of other women to build these shy girls up into one of us. Mistreatment is never deserved, but if I can make it harder for a girl to be mistreated, your damn right I will do whatever I can. That’s what girls supporting girls really is!!

Anonymous

OP 2w

I really wanna be closer with someone to give them that talk. But I also have a hard time being around someone when I realize they’re a people pleaser 😭

Anonymous

_salami_ 2w

Go out, make friends and listen intently. You will eventually find a girl who you could do this to. Confidence in women is contagious. Be bold, go out, command respect and even if you can’t directly help a girl yourself, you can show her who she wants to be!!!

Anonymous

OP 2w

Just with this post, I may have helped a woman at least start to want to make a change and be less nice. Every girl we strengthen is a win for women everywhere!

Anonymous

OP 2w

You’re so right.