Girl Talk on Sidechat | I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years BUTTTTTTT 3 of those years were during highschool. my bf & i’s agreed plan for getting engaged is we need to live in an actual apartment together for at least a year (we couldn’t sooner because of college)

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years BUTTTTTTT 3 of those years were during highschool. my bf & i’s agreed plan for getting engaged is we need to live in an actual apartment together for at least a year (we couldn’t sooner because of college)—

Anonymous 1d

— but he is moving out of state for his job (to pennsylvania) and i want to go with him. all of my college friends think it’s weird to move with him because we’re not engaged & don’t think our “agreement” for engagement is smart.

Anonymous 1d

I think it’s valid to move with him, you’ll just need to figure out what kind of work you can find for yourself. 6 years and not engaged yet is completely reasonable since you guys are still so young. Living together before committing to marriage is smart. Honestly, a lot of the ppl I know who got engaged right out of hs either never made it down the aisle or got a divorce. (Also dm me what part of PA—I live here)

Anonymous

OP 1d

i know it’s ultimately my relationship but they’re being really like unsupportive and making me seem crazy

Anonymous

OP 1d

we were unable to live with each other because we went to separate colleges like far away from each other too so living together in college wasn’t an option.

Anonymous

OP 1d

their thing is like “6 years, no ring?” and maybe a hot take from me but i don’t “count” the first 3, like i do but we didn’t have like as many responsibilities as we do as adults, yknow? i really do not see a point in shaming people for being together for a long time as long as the people in the relationship have shared expectations for marriage/ring or whatever

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OP 1d

I think you can totally go with him. It’s not like you’re up and taking off w a random from the bar. Perhaps your friends have some person jealousy or sum idk why they’re being like that. I also think you should def live w him before getting engaged. But I would definitely be smart about it like make sure you have your own money or job and ur not just like sitting there for him just in case the absolute worst happened and you’re suddenly in Pennsylvania alone

Anonymous

#2 1d

yeah for sure i’ve been looking at many jobs in that area that fit my career paths and have a rough plan, the move wouldn’t be until september. i’ve also been looking at like events / girl groups that do events and stuff so im not friendless! but even then my friends are so anti-pennsylvania that it’s really disappointing.