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tw/// trying to lose weight but not be disorder-y about it is a slippery slope

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Anonymous 2w

atp i think it’s impossible💔

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Anonymous 2w

I practice intuitive eating and it’s fine for like 3 days but I think I’m a bit different in the head so after those 3 days I just EAT and then forget I was doing it Or I try and count calories and… yeah that is fine for a day, maybe two considering I have enough time. Then it becomes a game of how low can I go until I become hungry and then binge eat.

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Anonymous 2w

Me bragging about losing weight purely because of how busy I am making me forget to eat ✨🤩✨

Anonymous 2w

I’m on appetite suppressants and I still wanna binge 😭

Anonymous 2w

Personally, I think tracking calories can start putting you in a dangerous headspace for trying to lose weight, especially if you have had a past ed. What I try to do, is just buy the “healthier” versions of things and to incorporate more protein, fruit, and veggies, especially if you are working out. I think it’ll start coming off more than you realize, if you stick to a healthier lifestyle!

Anonymous 2w

This but trying to gain 💀

Anonymous 2w

it’s definitely super difficult, but i try to get away from trying to lose weight and focus more on being healthy and treating myself right. recently i’ve been more focused on being happy and grateful too. like we’re not here for very long, so why not be as happy as possible while we are? some days that means eating salad and chicken breasts, some days that means eating pastries and fast food. it’s really hard, but you’re strong girl i believe in you

Anonymous 2w

When I’m not thinking about it I have a great relationship with food but the second I start thinking about it in terms of weight it all goes down the drain. Counting the amount of damn chocolate almonds I eat like I can’t have more than 5 fucking almonds

Anonymous 2w

yes. especially with a history

Anonymous 2w

(advice for anyone struggling with this) Dont count calories unless you really trust yourrself with that. Just eat 80-90% whole/minimally processed foods, with about 30% fruits/veggies, 30% carbs, 30% protein. Eat 3 meals a day, and be conscious of when your body feels hungry and full (intuitive eating). And obviously exercise cardio and strength on top of that. If you try all that consistently and it doesn't work, you are probably at a healthy weight already (or you need to see a doctor).

Anonymous 1w

It’s because comparison is the thief of joy. People are so wierd about weight even when it’s the least interesting thing about you, whether you gain, lose, whatever. Also don’t fall for labels-look at ingredient lists. You don’t need the more expensive organic product- especially if it’s a protein bar, for example. Don’t be scared of frozen food, don’t think you have to completely switch up your diet completely or else you will be broke 💔 also try to find movement in things you LIKE

Anonymous 1w

I think something that helps is rather than trying to lose weight just try to eat healthily and have healthy exercise If it’s focused on your health and you’re overweight you’ll lose some weight, but the weight shouldn’t be the focus the health should be

Anonymous 1w

As someone who recovered from an ED(Anna) I’d say that my best advice for keeping a healthy weight would be to swap snacks for a simple protein shake(my fav rn is the strawberries and cream from Element) instead of eating unhealthy snacks like chips and stuff you’re getting a high protein drink that helps keep you full. Which in turn can help prevent you from overeating. I often find myself eating when bored on top of my scheduled three meals(I do allow a snack or two after dinner).

Anonymous 2w

imo it’s best to approach it from a grateful, kinda moral pov. It’s moral to take care of your body, and not to eat things your body doesn’t me. It’s like managing your resources responsibly. You shouldn’t overspend your money, but it’s fine to indulge when you have saved. You shouldn’t overeat, especially when un-needed and unhealthy, but when you can afford it it’s fine to indulge. Just being mindful of how you’re treating your body.

Anonymous 2w

literally same!! i fear i’m about to just say fuck it and cave

Anonymous 2w

Same, it’s so easy to skip breakfast and lunch and only eat dinner so I prep my healthy lunch the day before and pack an apple in my bag to ensure I’m being healthy with my weight loss

Anonymous 2w

I have the same issue with gaining weight

Anonymous 2w

Don’t focus on cutting things out, just add more whole food proteins and vegetables/ fruits. And when you want a treat have it and don’t restrict

Anonymous 1w

Literally

Anonymous 1w

I never worried abt my weight till my metabolism began slowing down. I tried cal counting and never before had I been so HUNGRY! Focusing that much on food all day does that surprisingly. Counted for a whole month + gym and never saw any changes. I’ve since stopped and have just been conscious about what I eat. I’d say the only good thing about having counted was that I now have a better idea of which foods are best in moderation. Focusing on balance is way more effective imo.

Anonymous 1w

this is so real because why am i subconsciously calorie-checking everything when i can 💔🥀

Anonymous 1w

Just be in a deficit that's not too extreme like 500-400 cals, don't try to rush the process because time will pass anyway, and implement "cheat meals" regularly without going to extreme. It's so easy to lose weight without driving yourself crazy just gotta be smart about it.

Anonymous 2w

i only eat when im stomach hurt hungry, not in my mind hungry

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Anonymous

#1 2w

hate it here 💔

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Anonymous

#2 2w

im trying to do more intuitive eating and eating better when im at work and i've cut out most processed foods but i also dont deprive myself of foods i enjoy (like fries or cookies) bc everything is fine in moderation and then i try to run or workout but am i doing it bc i enjoy doing so or am i punishing my body for wanting "unhealthy foods"

Anonymous

#1 2w

How

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Anonymous

#6 2w

i completely avoid counting calories or looking at them! i just incorporate more whole foods into my diet and more movement at this point 🙂‍↕️

Anonymous

#7 2w

well for me at least no one i know knows what a healthy relationship w food looks like, i certainly don’t. and i definitely don’t know how to get there

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Anonymous

#7 2w

i personally feel like its a bit harder for women to have a healthy relationship with food and lose weight, mainly because most weight loss things are catered towards men- our cycles arent catered into it. and then with the trends in diet culture and don't get me started on glp-1 ads everywhere.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

twin

Anonymous

#6 2w

This is how I’ve maintained a pretty reasonable weight throughout my life. I eat quite a lot, and what i consider sort of unhealthy (I LOVE snacking) but at the same time you’ll never see me at a McDonald’s.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Then why do you feel it’s getting disorder-y? That sounds pretty healthy!!

Anonymous

#9 2w

im trying not to be is the thing! like i have to think about it instead of fall back into my old patterns

Anonymous

OP 2w

I see I hope that it get easier!! It’ll eventually become habit when you persist in it I’m sorry that it still feels like a task :(

Anonymous

#9 2w

thank you !! <3 it'll get easier eventually

Anonymous

#11 2w

and when i do eat, it’s healthy food choices (not a lot of sauce, veggies, smaller portions, more protein to feel full)

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Anonymous

#11 2w

i practiced this for a week and didnt need snacks

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Anonymous

#4 2w

Yesss😞💯

Anonymous

#11 2w

Y r u posting this this is clearly a thread of people trying to heal themselves and not harm?

Anonymous

#12 2w

yeah this is the mindset im trying to have! working out because i can and im taking care of my body for the future, same with eating more fruits and veggies bc they dont hurt my stomach

Anonymous

#13 2w

that's what i'm doing :3

Anonymous 2w

that doesn't work for everyone. and some of us have disordered eating habits (me) or are recovering from previous eds <3

Anonymous 2w

idk why you have so many downvotes😭 but for the most part you’re right, it’s 100% about all the macros in and your daily activity levels. too many ppl just look at caloric intake instead of tracking more concisely

Anonymous

#9 2w

im not saying to harm..? im saying i only eat when im ACTUALLY hungry not bored. like cutting out unnecessary snacking

Anonymous

#9 2w

im not saying to wait until your stomach is cramp aching, but just the necessary three meals and a possible snack if needed at the end of a long day. that’s quite literally what most doctors would have you do

Anonymous

#18 2w

im saying like tracking to that degree leads to disordered eating habits = bad relationship with food 😭✋

Anonymous

OP 2w

i think a lot of people think watchign what you eat is just counting calories, but it can also be choosing between a donut or freeze dried fruits. making this kind of decisions are the steps that need to be made

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Anonymous

#11 2w

im not saying that lmao. i mean that besides choosing more whole foods / less junk tracking caloric intake and macros to an intense degree can (not always, but can) lead to disordered eating habits. as in my case i have to avoid doing so because it'll lead back into my past habits and that wasn't healthy for me the way i was restricting myself- and im sure its similar for others. if its easy for you that way then great! but its not for others.

Anonymous

#19 2w

yes! i believe in eating healthy meals when i need to be full and treating myself to a sweet treat every now and then

Anonymous

#11 2w

if you’re quite overweight you do have to practice this unfortunately. When your body is used to so many calories it’s going to make you much more hungry when you need to be eating less. However if you’re already a good weight, or don’t have a tendency to overeat, then you likely don’t have to do this

Anonymous

#19 2w

also would like to back this up saying i struggle w disordering eating habits too (binge eating mostly🫩) so trust I KNOW it feels impossible i don’t want to discredit your experiences at all WE GOT THIS

Anonymous

#12 2w

no yeah, im not saying to immediately drop your portion sizes, you work your way there HEALTHILY i haven’t developed an ed but ive had an unhealthy relationship with food as i was growing up and have learned MY body when im actually hungry and just bored. it’s important to see a nutritionist if you dont trust yourself to monitor unhealthy eating choices and possibky see a therapist if its linked to mental trauma. take the steps that makes you a better you.

Anonymous

#19 2w

oh my god yes bruh. when i have an exam coming i get so tempted to binge eat. i gained 25 pounds at the end of my sophmore year in high school.

Anonymous

#11 2w

I genuinely gained 10 lbs in December just stress eating 😭😭 would’ve been more if I wasn’t trying to suppress my appetite with nicotine at the same time

Anonymous

#2 2w

started this semester 152 ended it 170 💔

Anonymous

#2 2w

but im making progress! i’ve been surrounding myself in positive environments and being mindful about my eating! i’ve lost 2 lbs since spring break!

Anonymous

#11 2w

sorry, last semester

Anonymous

#20 2w

and don't ever feel bad for "messing up" because it's not a strict plan/diet, it's a general guideline. And you can adjust it to work for YOU

Anonymous

#1 1w

Well I was super overweight and could not get myself out of my ways so I went on a weight loss med and it’s changing my life. It’s not for everyone but I was about to get diabetes so I was eligible and I’m slowly learning how to become healthier while taking it. It’s not for the weak and it’s certainly not the “easy way out” like most uneducated people like to say. If you’re in any position similar to mine, it may be worth looking into <3

Anonymous

#11 1w

You explaining further makes more sense but you still don’t have to wait until you’re actually in pain to eat. Cutting out too much snacking is good but eating regularly can also be good! :3

Anonymous

OP 1w

it has the potential to lead to disordered eating habits it does not definitively lead to it, it’s about being conscious and aware and to watch yourself. I am saying this as a person who has had disordered eating issues and a fluctuating relationship with food for years. when you know yourself and your habits you can pick and choose what health plan is best because each plan needs to be tailored for the individual, we are all so different and no one exact routine will work for everyone

Anonymous

#18 1w

or even from person to person, i understanding seeing that tracking tends to lead down that path when we are so used to it but you must consciously work through and retrain your brain and its thinking bout food and tracking of food, it’s hard and a lot of work but proper therapy and interventions can help💙

Anonymous

#1 1w

I lowk just accepted it atp so I can lose the weight…

Anonymous

#21 1w

i prb shouldve worded it better. im not saying to wait till your pain. im saying to wait till your body is subtly telling you you’re hungry. not just your inner thoughts telling you to snack on smth. ive been eatng regularly and with better meals and because of that i havent needed to snack

Anonymous

#11 1w

Samee

Anonymous

#21 1w

💯💯 being in pain hungry is not normal and if ur waiting to get to that point to eat it will lead to more disordered eating patterns or js make that one worse and stop your hunger cues in general at a certain point

Anonymous

#11 1w

That not what u said if you’re waiting until your stomach hurts to eat that’s unhealthy that is what you stated you’re doing? Cutting unnecessary snacking makes sense but not starving yourself until it hurts to cut out snacking?

Anonymous

#11 1w

The at is what you said? That’s exactly what you said you were doing. And that is kind of the opposite of what you said you were doing you said u cut snacking completely and aren’t eating unless it hurts. So not doing a regular doctor recommended diet

Anonymous

#27 1w

If someone says you HAVE to be sprinting up and down the block every day, they’re wrong- sure it’s one way to go but does that work for everyone? No. You know yourself best. Don’t trust influencers- maybe they have cool workout routines to try and fun recipes (and not all of them are bad) but at the end of the day, a lot of them are selling products and not telling full truths. You don’t need to be following weight loss/fitness influencers in order to commit to weight loss: NEVER.

Anonymous

#29 1w

I’m sure it’s different for gaining weight vs trying to maintain what weight I do have but I feel like this would at least help you not gain any weight. If you throw in some extra workouts(even just walking around a park) that should def help lose some weight. You could also adjust what you do eat for your three meals, maybe if you eat a lot of fast food you can start making yourself have a home cooked meal a few times a week!

Anonymous

#29 1w

After you start getting into the habit of cooking at home start looking for healthy recipes. I love doing a seasoned meat (chicken typically but steak sometimes to make it fancy)chopped up in white rice with some pan fried veggies!

Anonymous

#9 1w

i meant stomach pain hungry as in i can feel myself being hungry and not just thinking about eating smth. like most of the time when i start craving smth sweet or to snack on its prob because im hungry, and if i don’t want to eat an actual meal im probably not hungry fr