Anonymous #2 6w

See but last night he was showing his friends his new house he bought. The thing is, those same friends are helping him move in today so I don’t get why they needed to stay out late with him in that house. Also the fact that this isn’t the first time, like he would go out for dinner at 8, then stay at a place that is closed until 2-3am

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Anonymous OP 6w

kinda weird that u aren't apart of all this moving and celebration tbh

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Anonymous #1 6w

We’re long distance, I live 7 hrs away

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Anonymous OP 6w

Also I live with my parents who don’t know I have a bf and wouldn’t let me have one if they knew

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Anonymous OP 6w

ah makes sense then. either have a convo abt communication or leave but continuing to just return his effort w no communication is just gonna end ur relationship

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Anonymous #1 6w

I just texted him and I was mean, I hate my actions but at the same time I wouldn’t have to if he didn’t do this in the first place

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Anonymous OP 6w

i wouldn't communicate out of anger if you've never brought up this being an issue before. this sounds a tad unhealthy

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Anonymous #1 6w

I have brought it up, there is just a lot here we need to unpack. But okay I think I’m being a bit insane here which is why I’m not saying anything but I’ve told him countless times he doesn’t get it or understand it, it being my feelings/life and how complicated it is. I’ve told him I don’t like him out too late, then he comes back with I didn’t go out for 2 weeks, which is true. But does he need to see his friends for 5+ hrs. Okay if u go have a dinner at 8, do you need to chill with ur (1)

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Anonymous OP 6w

Friends till 2-3 or 4 am at a place that closes 10pm. This happens so many times, it’s truly annoying too because then when I call or text there is no answer or there will be an answer that’s like I’m out with friends, yeah I know I have ur location but I’m sleepy and we talk every night. The fact that I went to sleep last night and he didn’t even say goodnight. There was no text until noon today

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Anonymous OP 6w

Then it’s the fact that during the day I will ft him and his working from home, I know his busy but I ft him for like 20 min and I don’t get undivided attention for 20 min, like are you fr?

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Anonymous OP 6w

I’m also annoyed by a lot of other things rn. Okay so since this guy had graduated college and gotten his engineering degree, his family has used him. His sister would ask for thousands of dollars like it’s nothing and he would give it to her. His parents would ask for 75% of his salary and he gave it. Now that’s roughly 80k, the downpayment paid on his new family house. He “borrowed” that money from his dad, that was the money he gave his dad, but his fam insists that it’s borrowed so his dad

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Anonymous OP 6w

i think if you're worried about him having friends who he hangs out with and goes out with then you're not secure enough to be in an LDR. controlling when ur partner goes out with friends and how long they hang out with them is insane. u don't trust him and ur not compatible, look for someone who doesn't drink if u don't want to date someone who goes out w friends

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Anonymous OP 6w

Has ownership which pisses me off cuz why is his family leeching off him and why is he accepting it

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Anonymous OP 6w

it's completely normal for ur partner to be out and not as responsive when they're hanging out w ppl, that's healthy. yes he should've texted u when he was home or sent u a plan of what his night was so ud knw he was busy all night but u can't say "i want u home before 2am" that's controlling and insane

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Anonymous OP 6w

On top of that everyone else gets a bedroom, he has 2 other siblings and they get a bedroom, yet him, the only one with an online job, gets the living room to sleep in? And his parents had a fight with him being like in our home country parents get 100% salary

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Anonymous OP 6w

ya yall just aren't compatible. u also don't get a say in how ur partner spends $$, ur allowed to not like it and not get it but ur not married so telling him how to spend it isn't ur place. yall need to breakup

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Anonymous #1 6w

I never said I want you home before 2am. I just said I don’t like it when you stay out too late, it nearly hinted at it. It was more like just communicate with me. Last night I ft him after work, my job ended at 8pm so I call and his like I’m showing my friends my house, I’ll call after. So I stay up until 2am, and his still at the new house. So I sleep. I didn’t get a text all night. Nothing like are you still up, or goodnight. Also who spends nearly 5 plus hrs with friends like that

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Anonymous #1 6w

He asks me for advice, he literally asks me. One of his friends budgets with his gf and he wants to do that with me, but I said no cuz I don’t want it to get complicated

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Anonymous OP 6w

spending 5+ hrs with friends is so normal and healthy 😭😭😭😭 but ur right it was wrong for him to say tht then never call. completely valid to be upset. if uve communicated all this before i guess it's safe to say yall just aren't compatible in communication styles or lifestyles. he doesn't want to make the time for u that will help u feel more secure which u deserve

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Anonymous OP 6w

Plus he went out on Thursday with his friends and also spent 5 hrs, he went out at 8 and went to a sushi place that closed at 10, he was out till 3 am at the sushi place according to his location. The place was closed what could he possibly have been doing?

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Anonymous OP 6w

girl idk ask him, if you've gotten to the point where ur literally monitoring him when he's just out with friends then u seriously r not in a healthy relationship

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