Anonymous #1 22w

Idk I think the shock is less about being “a baddie” and moreso my age bc most ppl have lost it before their early 20s at this point.

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Anonymous #1 22w

I also know a couple ppl who lost it a year or 2 back because they wanted to get it over with and that also made me wonder if I should just do the same so I don’t have to worry about it anymore 😔

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Anonymous OP 22w

well what is the worry tho? that people will be shocked for a few minutes then not care a few minutes later? if the only reason you want to do it is because of social pressure that’s not a healthy reason

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Anonymous #1 21w

I think it’s easy not to feel societal pressure of romance or sex when you’ve already had it and are on the other side. And I think some ppl don’t really understand what it’s like to go a significant portion or all of your life not relating to people in that regard.

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Anonymous OP 21w

lmao i’m saying this as someone who has literally no experience either and when you think about it it really doesn’t matter and at least for me it feels stupid to sacrifice my boundaries and comfort just to fit into some arbitrary timeline of when you should do things. i used to feel insecure but by now i’m like lowkey why does the timing matter fr and for me it doesn’t so idrc if people get surprised because they also don’t really care either if they do that’s weird

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Anonymous #1 21w

True it just sucks when ppl treat you weird because of it

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Anonymous OP 21w

but like when you think about it they’re the ones being weird if they treat you weird so don’t mind them

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Anonymous #1 21w

Yeah you’re right I’m just in the process of unlearning that mindset of caring what other ppl think

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Anonymous OP 21w

stay on it queen! it’s so freeing and you’ll feel silly you even cared about it in the first place protect your peace do your own thing it’s your life

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