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oh true. i was just confused because it’s very clearly an insult to the fridge friend (ive been that friend never the snacks one). but yeah i def agree i think it hurts the girls friendship bc it divides us. like if the snacks friend doesn’t stick up for the fridge friend it will def hurt the friendship but it also could be scary to do so depending on the man

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Anonymous #13 19w

1. this community is not for you 2. girls “hop on your case” bc she knows her friend doesn’t want you❤️

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Anonymous #5 19w

THISSSS

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Anonymous #13 19w

if a girl decides shes not willing to share her time or space with you then she’ll make it clear and the first sign of that should tell u to walk away

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Anonymous #13 19w

I’m gonna let you in on a little secret: sometimes we’re uncomfortable with you even if we don’t “show” it. Politeness has been taught to us as a safety tactic for a very long time. Typically your friends are more aware of it than the random dude walking up to you

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Anonymous #15 19w

I will certainly walk away if she makes it obvious she doesn’t want to give me the time of day. I’m saying if we are having good conversation and her friend is intentionally being a cockblock then that’s where the problem arises. If a man approaches and she doesn’t want to give him the time and he keeps it going then I don’t stand for that yk

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Anonymous #4 19w

And being polite and respectful is great but if you don’t want him to hit on you then say that and if he doesn’t walk away after that I agree it’s a problem. I’m saying if the conversation is flowing and they want the attention then their friends should help shouldn’t be stopping the man and ruining the convo

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Anonymous #14 19w

1. Other perspectives are great 2. If she doesn’t want me she should say that and I’ll walk away, her friend shouldn’t always have to intervene

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Anonymous #16 19w

when girls get hit on in public and is uncomfortable and they have a friend that tells the guy to back off, guys have started calling the friend “a fridge” to say that she is fat and undesirable, and that she is protecting “the snacks” the girl the guys want to get with. This is the undermine the efforts of the friend and create division between the friends. Saying she is just protecting her friend because she is jealous of her looks.

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Anonymous #16 19w

Basically a line guys pull when they think that a “less attractive” friend of a girl is blocking her from talking with a guy

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Anonymous #3 19w

its hard to explain but most girls have an underlying insecurity of being whatever society deems as undesirable, in this instance it is being fat, so by preying on that common insecurity guys are creating division between the friends, elevating one above the other, and also in some cases having the “pretty” friend turn on the “ugly” friend because now she is viewing her help as sabotage of the attraction she gets because of her looks.

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Anonymous OP 19w

so yes it makes them both uncomfortable but also preys on both of their insecurities because the “ugly” friend becomes afraid to help due to ridicule, and the “pretty” friend becomes tricked into not accepting help because it is now viewed as sabotage. This just further helps the men who created this environment in the first place and the division creates exactly what they want, complete unbridled access to the “pretty” girl even if she is uncomfortable.

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Anonymous OP 19w

But also, not all of the “pretty” girls will react like that, and instead they will be impacted in a similar way that the “ugly” girl is because they understand the insecurity of being undesirable, and wouldn’t want to put their friend in that scenario so they reject help as to not embarrass their friend

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Anonymous #13 19w

I know because you don’t find the friend attractive and worth your time it is a bother to have her intervene and become “a cockblock” but girls usually communicate with each other, and will back off if they can tell their friend is fine, but in my experience it usually take an extra nudge to get guys to leave me alone. Whether thats saying I have a boyfriend, or having a friend help, they usually don’t treat me with enough respect to take my word, probably because they are taught to keep trying.

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Anonymous #13 19w

its up to you to try and read if she is into it or not, but if a friend is blocking you just ask the girl straight up if you would like if you left her alone she might just tell you.

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Anonymous #19 19w

Saw*

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Anonymous #19 19w

lol i dont use instagram but its a normal take im glad ppl are calling it out

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Anonymous OP 19w

Both of your responses are reasonable and valid. In my experience none of my friends or myself would keep trying if you made it obvious you weren’t interested or we felt unwanted that’s why I’m saying what I am

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Anonymous #13 19w

the fact that you can’t respect that this is an online space for women only makes me think that you wouldn’t immediately leave a girl alone if she didn’t give you the same energy

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Anonymous #14 19w

Honestly just popped up on my Home Screen, clicked on it, and thought it was an interesting topic to provide my perspective😭 Didn’t think it would be this deep or I would’ve kept my opinion to myself

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Anonymous #13 19w

you saw a post about women feeling unsafe, that had 500 upvotes from WOMEN, had an opposing opinion, and felt that you needed to voice it, and then argued with the women in the comments bro

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Anonymous #14 19w

I’m not trying to argue I’m trying to make conversation and see your guys perspective but I can see what point your trying to get across

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Exactly what I’m trying to say is when it’s jealousy then it’s not the man’s fault but when it’s concern and the man isn’t abiding then yeah it’s a problem and that’s a W homegirl

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Anonymous #3 19w

it’s never a compliment when you’re actively being harassed

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Anonymous #22 19w

bc in what world does “omg ur friend is fat hahahahaha” lead to “omg lemme sleep with you!! 🤩”

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Anonymous OP 19w

Umm wow okay this is awful

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Anonymous trideltprez 19w

Found the predator

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Anonymous #22 19w

Nah, I can just read between the lines. Maybe try running the lakes and lose that gut 😭

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Anonymous trideltprez 19w

found the creep

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Anonymous #25 19w

yeah i just assume the phrase means bigger women cause thats typically who I see it targeted towards, but they truly are beautiful, its a shame they are harassed sm

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Anonymous trideltprez 19w

lose that attitude son.

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Anonymous trideltprez 19w

Or maybe let’s let people be the way they want to be and not shame them for it 😊

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Anonymous #24 19w

God I wish being gay was a choice. It’s a struggle out here 😔

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Anonymous OP 19w

I also had no idea what this meant. That’s insane

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Anonymous #28 19w

Yeah same I was searching for an explanation lol. You know a man came up with it bc the metaphor makes no sense. A fridge does nothing to block you from getting food??? It actively keeps food fresh??? Like what are they on about LOL

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Anonymous #25 19w

This is girl talk, get outta here.

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Anonymous trideltprez 19w

Found the man 🤡 GET OUTTA HERE

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Anonymous #13 19w

You’re welcome to look at the conversation, but this space is actively NOT for you and you should not be commenting here. But I want to reiterate in this convo, that women are taught to be polite for SAFETY. We never know when our rejection of a man will put us in danger. Therefore we develop a method to subtly let our friends know to help us out of a situation. If you as a man can’t pick up that you’re not wanted, that’s YOUR problem.

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Anonymous #29 19w

All these men making this stupid metaphor bc they refuse to realize they’re the problem, are only lashing out at the girls for protecting each other bc they refuse to accept that the girl they’re talking to isn’t into them.

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Anonymous #27 19w

every day there’s some new crazy term created by a man and us gays just can’t keep up 😭 stay safe sisters

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