Girl Talk on Sidechat | I told my bf if I ask him not to repeat something I said, regardless of however funny he finds it, he doesn’t repeat it. Tell me why he started defending himself and not just straight up agreeing with me? This got me worked up & he turned it on me.

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Girl Talk 11w

I told my bf if I ask him not to repeat something I said, regardless of however funny he finds it, he doesn’t repeat it. Tell me why he started defending himself and not just straight up agreeing with me? This got me worked up & he turned it on me.

Anonymous 11w

How many other boundaries does he protest? Doesnt matter how significant you think they are

Anonymous 11w

This is a bare minimum respect thing for me. If you liked me at all you wouldn’t fight me on this. He could have said “okay I won’t say it next time w/o asking” and we could have laughed it off and it be that. Why are u fighting me on this? Why.

Anonymous 11w

Saying it happened a week ago, it’s a dumb conversation, relax, stop getting amped up. I asked him “so it’s dumb of me to ask u not to say something and you not say it?” And he said yeah.

Anonymous

#1 11w

I know there are a few but I have asked him not to call me dumb or stupid which he claims he does as a joke, I’ve asked him not to make fun of my stutter which he has worked on, only gotten me flowers for when I asked him to get them for me to ask me out— none on my birthday. Those are the ones that stand out.

Anonymous

OP 11w

He makes fun of your stutter??? Calls you dumb and minimizes it?? Like your decisions are your own but my ex used to do all that shit and eventually when it came to "big deal" boundaries she continued to diminish them and it got rlly bad

Anonymous

OP 11w

he had to work on not making fun of ur stutter??? that should be an easy thing to stop doing the SECOND u bring it up!!! and insulting ur intelligence as a “joke” is never a sign of someone who respects u. and he calls something that matters to u “dumb.” nobody close to u in life should speak to u that way

Anonymous

#2 11w

I called him last night to talk about it and he apologized but it felt like he was being more dismissive about it. He also mentioned it wasn’t the tpo for this convo bc I had a tone while asking him to ask me next time — I only had a tone bc he was treating it like it wasn’t an easy ask

Anonymous

#1 11w

He used to but once I brought up how I don’t like him making fun of my stutter he has gotten much better and doesn’t do it anymore, he still needs to work on the dumb/stupid comment tho

Anonymous

OP 11w

go with ur gut, he’s being a dismissive asshole and trying to make u feel small. saying u “had a tone” is he ur mf father? he has no right to speak to u that way! also wdym by “tpo”? sorry im not familiar with what that means and i can’t figure out if its a typo

Anonymous

#2 11w

This is absolutely unacceptable behavior from him. Im not asking this in a judgy way but it helped me reflect when i was going through a similar thing: why is it worth it to you to tolerate this disrespect?

Anonymous

#1 11w

Oops meant op reply

Anonymous

#2 11w

Time, place, occasion. It’s not an official acronym but I use it that way sorry for the confusion

Anonymous

#1 11w

I do like him but we are currently coworkers. We work in different departments however we need help from his dept. often. So if we break up it will be detrimental to my work life

Anonymous

OP 10w

Is that the primarybreason for not breaking up with him?