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Girl Talk 21w
Yall I’m about to have sex for the first time everyone please give me tips like anything u wish u knew before having sex for the first time
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Anonymous 21w

Protection. Pill/IUD/Insert + condom. It will feel definitely different, possibly painful. Slow slow slow. Don’t be afraid to hep maneuver what’s best for you. Reciprocated action is appreciated. Be sensual with yourself and never ever be afraid to say no or stop. If you feel you can be dry go get a small bottle of lube. Foreplay is heavy important

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Anonymous 21w

If this boy pulls a fast one and says he doesn’t have condoms - you can say I hope you like being a father!! They will either find them or not fuck. I have a box to use just in case. I prefer Skyn I think it’s less irritating and more smooth on my 🐱 if he takes it off IMMEDIATELY STOP. That’s fucking RAPE… that is ABUSE. An un agreed action with massive consequences. Don’t even let him try “just the tip” that’s bullshit. It’s an easy access way to get you started without it or want it without.

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Anonymous 21w

Love all the advice on being safe! Any advice to not be nervous and what to expect

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Anonymous 18w

Update: I HAD SEX AND IT WAS REALLY GOOD

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Anonymous 18w

#virginout

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Anonymous 21w

This is happening in like a week so I have some time but I appreciate the timeliness of the replies 😭

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Anonymous 21w

condoms don’t stop the transmission of genital herpes

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Anonymous 21w

Damn nobody is responding. How soon is this happening? Is this all on me?

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Anonymous 21w

You’ve got some good advice already here, so I’m just commenting to make myself available and echo USE PROTECTION

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

You should pee right after sex to lower risk of UTIs

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 21w

Oh thank God

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

I wish I knew there was absolutely no pressure to do anything I didn’t want to do because at the end of the day, that guy wouldn’t matter and even if I were still with him, years later I know for sure my perspective is more important and it truly should be about me and the experience I want to

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Like if it doesn’t feel right, you can just stop and if they don’t stop when you ask them to, they’re a rapist full stop

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Absolutely forgot the PEE AFTER SEX…. I take it a step further (and if I’m not at home I bring a small wash cloth) and wet one said with soap. Wash around real quick. Rinse same side and wipe away soap. Dry with other side or clothes.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Ask for what you want because they probably won’t know, it’s always okay to take breaks, play whatever music you want and again just pause if you’re not feeling it to recalibrate the music or sip some water or recalibrate your emotions and honestly don’t put too much pressure on yourself because it’s a long life you have ahead of you with as much sex as you want in it and the first time is unremarkable in many ways for many women but it’s all your prerogative to be as demanding as you want to be

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 21w

I have those disposable towel things you can add water to and they expand

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Advise I wish I had (:

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 21w

Thank you!!! Very helpful

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Thank you sm!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 21w

are there any short term birth control options you can use before having sex that are just as effective when paired with condom if you don’t want the long term pill/iud/insert?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 21w

No there’s plan B but those mess your whole system up

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21w

Idk about the “as much sex as you want in your life” part, but the rest is A-okay

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21w

You’re gonna be nervous, trust. But foreplay is heavily involved to soothe that. Don’t be Afraid to ask for it slow and get to know each others body’s first. He’s probably gonna ask for head anyways and you better demand that in return. Being sensual is key. It’s gonna hurt and feel like a wedging feeling. But it shouldn’t be bad

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18w

I will gladly read all the highly graphic details mother

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18w

HURRAY

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

It was like 10 mins of trying to get it in bc I had to tear my hymen so that hurt but then it was like surprisingly good like it felt amazing i thought it would be alright bc when i try doing stuff to myself it literally feels like nothing but omg it was great

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

And we did like 4 diff positions but then it started to get sore so we stopped but overall like 10/10 first experience!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17w

And I’m like how tf did I wait so long to do this just bc I was scared

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