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Girl Talk 22w
I fear I fucked up, I’ve been in this relationship for 3 years.(call me dumb) he’s cheated on me numerous times. His best friend died in the beginning of our relationship and my boyfriend became extremely close to the girlfriend and at one point basically
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Anonymous 22w

Girl I mean this in the kindest way possible you need to stand up and leave. If you think “maybe my depression will get worse if I break up with him” this entire situation is effecting your mental health. Both of them are trash and should be dealt as such.

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Anonymous 22w

Shut me out. On top of all the cheating it made my mind begin to think that they were messing around. Fast forward we grow from that situation after having talk. Now recently he cheated on me a month ago and I’m still trying to shake back from it mentally and emotionally. I’ve been battling with a lot from finances, school, work and my depression. Today we had a time argument but again talked through it. Hours later, he changes clothes so I ask him are you going anywhere. He proceeds to tell me

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Anonymous 22w

i’d leave

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

No and I asked about two to three times. He goes outside maybe a minute later and I get a cashapp notification that money got sent to me (from the girl), a few minutes go past and he hasn’t came back in yet. My mind immediately becomes angry but it’s not because he’s with her, it’s because he lied to me when I feel like he would’ve told me. I let my insecurities and emotions win and I went off on him and texted the girl. I feel so bad because I hate letting my emotions overpowered my mind,

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

I know it’s draining to the both of us but I don’t know how to fix it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22w

Everytime I leave, I come back and I hate it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

Have you ever looked internally to try and to figure out why you keep going back? More specifically why he takes you back but refuses to change his actions.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22w

I feel like if I leave while he’s currently still struggling that I’ve abandoned him in a way, we lost a baby about a year ago and I genuinely do love him but on his part I couldn’t explain it to you even if I tried truly.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

This sounds harsh but sometimes you have to put yourself first. Acknowledging that someone is struggling doesn’t mean you need to fix it. I know with the whole baby thing that makes it a lot harder but you have to think about yourself physically and mentally.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 22w

No it’s not harsh at all. I don’t even know who you are but I appreciate this more than you know. Everyone tells me I’m overreacting and maybe there’s a reason why he didn’t tell me and I should look at both sides. This whole situation has truly hurt my feelings beyond measures.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 22w

Ofc girl!! Also maybe the people around you need a reality check too. I wish you the best and I hope you get out of that horrible situation bc it’ll make you go crazy. 🫶🏽

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