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thought i made a new friend, but he got a girlfriend and suddenly told me that she's making him cut me off :(

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Anonymous 24w

i don't even want ur man like that 😭 i just wanted to know someone on campus 🥀

Anonymous 24w

I hate girls like this. Like unless something is VERY obviously going on between you and the guy I don’t think there is any reason to why you can’t just be friends

Anonymous 24w

Had a best friend for 7 years who cut me off cause he had a girlfriend of like two months. Mf if I wanted your man I would have done something abt it in the past SEVEN YEARS we’ve been friends

Anonymous 24w

Queen I totally get you, we should be friends. I just had to break up w my partner of 2.5 years because he could never get over his jealousy. Men and women CAN just be friends, some ppl are ridiculous

Anonymous 24w

Some people just have boundaries on relationships with the opposite sex and that’s okay! What’s weird is you thinking you can push those boundaries and that they are wrong for not being okay with that.

Anonymous 24w

maybe a month into our relationship my (now ex) bf decided he wanted to be friends with his ex gf of 4 years. i was very clear about how uncomfortable that made me and the fact that he couldn’t prioritize my feelings over her was what ultimately led to us breaking up. maybe im in the wrong for not letting him be friends with her but if you love someone you should respect what they aren’t okay with. i would’ve lost my mind with anxiety and jealousy if i stayed with him through that.

Anonymous 24w

My bf barely talks to his girl best friend of 6+ years ever since we’ve been together. He’s a little introverted, so I push for him to go and see every one of his friends and go out, which he does, but not with her. At first I thought it was because of me, and it is, but not necessarily in a negative way. He does it out of respect, and has told her the reason why. She’s okay with it, she does say she misses him, but ultimately it’s his decision more than it is either of ours.

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Anonymous

#2 24w

the switch up is crazy :( ugh

Anonymous

#3 24w

lets not normalize controlling your partner's social life and making them cut off ALL of their friends, which is what happened in my scenario its abnormal behavior and a sign of deeper issues

Anonymous

OP 24w

Girl you said you just had became friends… it is normal to not want your partner hanging out with the opposite sex. Everyone has different preferences and boundaries based on their experiences. It’s weird you’re so mad about it you had to go make a post. It’s also weird you can’t just accept it and move on. And are you sure it was all his friends or just the ones that made his gf uncomfortable. Props to him for putting her first.

Anonymous

#3 24w

It isn’t normal and is inherently sexist. You’re supposed to heal before you start up a romantic relationship. If you aren’t emotionally mature enough to allow ur partner to be around other human beings, don’t get into a relationship. It isn’t weird bc both men and women cheat with both men and women. The hardest and least understood part abt a relationship is that you leave yourself emotionally vulnerable when you place your trust in a partner.

Anonymous

#3 24w

That’s what trust is. Giving your trust to another KNOWING they could hurt you. Control like this is not normal

Anonymous

#3 24w

I understand your POV if you can’t even trust urself around the opposite gender, but if you can control yourself and see that in your partner, you should also trust them to say no if they are ever approached like that.

Anonymous

#3 24w

he explicitly told me he cut everyone off because she asked him to im aromantic asexual so i didnt have any interest in him. we were friends for like 3 months. he just met started dating her 2 WEEKS ago. now shes pregnant😭. then he cut me off after complaining in depth abt how he hates when ppl switch up after dating i think im allowed to express my frustrations after trying to make a new friend and it being thrown away so quickly

Anonymous

OP 24w

like i genuinely worry about how quickly they moved and how controlling she seems.. NOT TO MENTION THE PREGNANCY after 2 weeks of just meeting and now dating bro 😭😭🥀 but its not my fight. i wont be where im not wanted

Anonymous

#6 24w

i think this is weird tbh. whats the point of even being friends with her if shes so disposable to him?

Anonymous

#4 24w

being friends with an EX is WAY WAY different than just having REGULAR FRIENDS of the opposite sex 😭 its unfortunate he didnt respect ur boundary. sorry this happened :(

Anonymous

OP 24w

Not hanging out ≠ not communicating, not being friends. And we’re all adults, if that boundary of his isn’t ideal for her, then she could easily express that or cut the relationship.

Anonymous

#6 24w

i hope she stops accepting a half assed friendship and finds more ppl who actually want to be around her but you're right, we're all adults. maybe she's cool with crumbs

Anonymous

#3 24w

It’s not normal. Why is it weird to have friends of the opposite sex?

Anonymous

OP 24w

fellow aroace here and yeah she doesn’t even have the excuse of worrying you’ll want him 😭 like atp it’s just to manipulate him

Anonymous

OP 24w

Hey 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anonymous

OP 24w

Okay, originally I had thought that you all just met and they had been together and you made her uncomfortable so my bad on that part but in that case it is weird he switched up like that. Also the only reason why I think it would be weird for my partner to want to be with the opposite sex is because neither of us want to be friends with the opposite sex so doing so would be a little weird in our dynamic but I could see how that can be toxic in other situations who enjoy the company everyone