Anonymous #1 2w

we met on a dating app and talked a little on there but he asked for my number and asked me out on a date and we settled on thursday evening and he said he’ll figure out the rest and i said “sounds good!” that convo was on friday and we haven’t talked since so im just wondering if that’s normal or if i should send like a hey how are you

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Anonymous OP 2w

I personally don’t think this is normal. There isn’t “anything to figure out” like he’s the man and should’ve made concrete plans and given u peace of mind and no confusion. I think if u gotta question him already, smth isn’t right. Not saying it’s doomed but dudes gotta text you back on his own and please don’t accept the date if the day of hes like “hey im ready let’s meet here in 2 hrs” like hell no

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Anonymous #1 2w

oh yeah for sure i will not be going out with him if he says something day of. he worked yesterday and today and we both have finals this upcoming week so i was thinking like i get it he may be busy but it also takes like 5 seconds to say hey, yk?

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Anonymous OP 2w

Exactly it does take 5 secs to text back, don’t give any excuses girl. Even day of, wouldn’t be cool with me but whatever u think is appropriate bc we dont want him to think your just waiting around for him to make his mind up and nobody else got plans w you

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Anonymous #1 2w

right. we planned on thursday at 6 and he said “don’t worry about anything” so that’s at least settled on but if nothing is said by like wednesday it’ll be time to move on

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Anonymous OP 2w

well i kind of disagree. i know there are saying coaches out there that say once the date is planned don’t say anything unless confirming the night before. if the time and place is planned then i think it’s fine to not say anything. not my personal style as i would prefer more communication, but i wouldn’t block your blessings over this, this could be a good thing.

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Anonymous #3 2w

i also would like more communication but im also trying to understand that everyone is different. he seems great but like i said only the date and time has been solidified and not the place, so im hoping he says something before the day of the date

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Anonymous OP 2w

ohh ok that is a bit different. i think instead of waiting, if you want more communication you should say something now! that way if you go on the date and the relationship continues, he will know early on that this is a value you have. i think give him one chance and let him know you’d like to know where you’re going and solidify the plan. everyone makes mistakes sometimes, if this is a pattern that repeats then you’ll know it wasn’t out of character due to stress/finals/work

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